Exactly. A sparring match is dynamically different from a Monkey Dance fight (though, depending on egos, there might be aspects present), and a Monkey Dance is very different in dynamics from a predatory attack.It is almost as if the dynamics of a fight and the dynamics of a real predatory self defense situation are different.
Watched a video on random knife attacks and they were not like fights. Those attacks were 100% committed.
Now the question becomes, how do you prepare for one and not affect the other? Is it possible to be good at fighting and self defense or are the two mutually exclusive?
So far, what im distilling from this is that someone who does a competitive art that does lots of sparring, should be ok when it comes to more ego fueled situations such as pissing contests at a bar over spilt milk or girls. It seams that when it comes to predatory or asocial violence that things shake apart. HMM much to think of. Off to youtube to watch more fight vids!!
You're starting to figure something out. But, remember, most "attacks" that end up on video are either caught by accident, or not true attacks. You might look into Rory Miller's books Meditations on Violence and Facing Violence, along with Bruce Siddle's Sharpening the Warrior's Edge, Gavin de Becker's The Gift of Fear, some of Loren Christensen's stuff, Mark MacYoung's stuff, and more...