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hello. recently ive been in a pretty bad situation. and im not happy with the way i reacted.
ill tell you about what happened, and im just wondering if anyones got any advice,because it would be GREATLY appreciated.
recently, well about a couple of month ago, just after i turned 19, i was walking round the back of work to my car to relax for during my lunch break.
i walk past a group of asian lads about my age, some older. there was 4 - 5 of them, and i looked at one and nodded as if to say hello. ( cause im a nice lad ) well any way i carried on walking, and one of them said to me . "who do you think you are looking at a paki like that?!" i was baffled and turnd round and said "wat are you on about mate?" and then he came up in my face and started givig it the big one. "who do you think you are, talking to a paki like that" and stuff like that, me being me i tried to diffuse the situation, and calm it down and i was asking why he was starting trouble. and hen afte a short while of this, he headbutte me, i was totaly unxpecting this. and i stumbled back, i was sent reeling by this, and then he started laying in to me, i was very angry at this, but i dint hit him back because he had his friends with him, and what its like now days is that his mates would jump in and id have got beaten in to the ground my all of them and seriously injured, or stabbed or something, so i just took the beating, whilst saying get off me man.
i wanted os bad to defend myself but i jsut kind of frozeup, i couldnt hit back. i was scared i admit it. but i aso feel i was quite brave as i didnt run away, but im dissapointed and annoyed i didnt fight back, feel kind of cowardly, even though i know im not, but has anyone got any advice, so next time i can just react and not just try and dodge punches, and then in the end just covering my head to defend it? sorry its so long i just kind of needed to get this offy chest, and ask for some advice,as i REALY dont want to freeze up like that ever again.
i dont do any martil arts, but i play rugby, and i do wieghts, but i ahve no confidence in my abilty to defend my self. thanks alot for taking the time to read this.
sorry one more question and i will ask no more silly youthfull questions.
did how i react in the situation when i got beat, was i a coward for reacting like that?
Geoff Thompson IS the man!Overunder , I think that it may help you to read some books by the British author Geoff Thompson I am a big fan of his . He is reputed to have been in something like 4 hundred fights
In his books he goes into a lot of depth in how to handle the adrenaline dump and things you should be doing in the pre fight stage like controlling the distance between you and your attacker with the use of a non threatening guard called " The Fence ".
Also make sure you join up to a reputable martial art school as soon as you possibly can so you can develop some self defence skills to back up your pre confrontation strategies .
I'd have gotten in less fights if I could run faster!i've been at ma since i was a tyke. i grew up doing a tremendous amount of sparring, and got in quite a few street altercations as well, mostly in my teen years. nothing too serious...
not quite so active these days, but at one point i was pretty serious about it, and i actually got decent at a few things.
all in all, you will find that violence is not a very valuable skill. it is highly overrated. i can defend myself quite handily, but it is the absolute last option. i would much rather defuse the situation or use teh Run Fu.
martial arts training provides many benefits, the least of which is the ability to injure someone.
regards.
That's a normal and human response.thanks alot sgtmac_46 . its just in a situation like that i get intimidated too easily, but im too proud to back down, and im not a coward, but i freeze like deer in the headlights, i get immboilized by my own doubts about myself, and i cant seem to stop those thoughts, and they take hold, i know physically i can hold my own easily, im small and light but im strong. but i have very little confidence in myself. and plus i dont actualy like hurting people.
its a bit messed up, but i relay need to overcome my self doubt but its so hard. i find myself walking round now hoping for someone to start a fight so i can act differently to how i did. its mad but its sent my brain a bit mad
thanks alot, for the advice sgtmac. there is thai boxing classes near my area. ive heard that is very good. i think i may start that, as i dont know any boxing clubs local to my area. whats your opinions on thai boxing or muay thai.
thanks alot to everyones advice it is very much appreciated
You just have to work hard when you're there....but to really get the most out of it i'd hang a bag somewhere and work out in my spare time throughout the week.....maybe 10 or 15 minutes here and there when you have a little down time. It's a great cardio workout, and if you run or do some other form of cardio, you might throw in shadow boxing and bag work as a cardio workout to do double duty.......and a good jump rope is ALWAYS RECOMMENDED!excelent. i will deffonately get myself down there. they do classes on monday and thursdays. i willonly be able to do it once a week, as thursday clashes with rugby training. do you think once a week is enough?
It may be okay to get started on just one day a week but like any physical activity dependant on muscle memory, the more you practise, the more instinctive it becomes.
I used to do three sessions a week in my Lau days and practise every day besides. If you 'take' to it, I think you'll soon find yourself making the time to train, as you would for any other activity that you enjoy and want to get better at.
Good luck and enjoy yourself!thanks alot! i will get my sorry **** down to that class this monday. cheers mate is very much appreciated