Plenty of people here have made the argument that one should focus on just one person and that nothing else is possible.
Point them out. They have indicated that you should not be looking at multiple women, rather look to establishing a single, monogamous, relationship, but that is not the same as what you are saying here.
If you've really studied NLP then you would be able to make the connection. All you have to do is just listen to the way people talk.
As opposed to just reading books and missing the point entirely? I have made the connection, and the connection is that you are entirely wrapped up in your own head, and only see what is already there. And if it isn't supported in others posts, you are simply inventing it for yourself.
My argument has been otherwise, but since I am not a psychologist and since everyone believes only in what psychologists say, then people have no choice to believe in what Dr. Warren Farrell said in his book 'Why Men are the way they are'.
Until you can read, stop with the books. Your argument? What argument are you talking about? And otherwise to what? This sentence has no context at all, you know...
While I think that his book is interesting and that the parts about how culture tends to influence us, I know that is only a small part of it.
Uh, what?
That was proven by Ross, Milton Erickson, and Richard Bandler on more than one occasion and it has been proven by the business world for a long time as well.
You know, you're going in circles here, and not going very far each time. And stop the name dropping, almost no-one here knows who you are refering to, I do and I don't care.
Unlike everyone else I am not looking at the surface. I am looking at what is beyond that.
But only to find what you are already wanting to be there. And that is worse than just looking to the surface.
Ask yourself what you think might happen if you meet someone you are romantically interested in and you decide to get married. 20 or thirty years pass by and the looks and the money have faded. What reason or motivation do you or your spouse have to stay with one another and to keep the relationship alive and well?
Well, for one thing, money can increase with age, if you do things right. So forget that part of your equation. As to the rest, if you don't think there is any reason to stay with someone other than such superficial trivialities, you will be alone. Forever. So deal with it.
But if you actually need an answer to the question, love is something that can deepen with time, and in all my relationships they have continued or ended based on aspects entirely unrelated to looks or wealth, so I guess I would continue the same patterns (for the ones that continued, of course), finding new adventures for us, constant surprises, approach with a sense of fun and joy just because they are there... and in love, that comes very naturally.
Now that the looks and the money have faded, should they by your standards continue to stay with you or do you have something more that you can offer?
Really, what on earth are you talking about? You don't really have any idea of what "my standards" are, but for the record, my standards are all for me to live up to, not anyone else. And yes, I have a hell of a lot more to offer than money and looks... not much money, to tell the truth. But at least I've got looks! And they'll never fade, hear me, never! (PS That was a joke line, mainly for other people, but I'm explaining it here for your sake, you seem to miss the humour in most posts)
I'm just curious because unlike a lot of other people I have been looking at things from the personality side and as to what it really takes to make a relationship grow and to be not only mutually beneficial to one another, but also emotionally and psychologically healthy.
Really? Could've fooled me... Okay, I'll bite. If you have been looking at things from a "personality" side, then why the constant focus on superficial things like looks and money, which no-one other than you have brought up, you realise, and tech such as NLP and game?
But first things first, get beneficial for yourself first, you cannot possibly be beneficial to anyone else until then. And it seems you have a long way to go before you come to an understanding of what it is to be emotionally and psychologically healthy. Get some help. Seriously.
Stop and ask yourself as to what you think would be most important to you in a partner and as to what would be least important. Also ask yourself as to what areas you think were negotiable and that you would be willing to work on with that partner.
Why? What is the point of this for anyone but myself and the women I am seeing? Dude, you have hijacked this thread with your own issues for too long now, the thread is about someone (who isn't you!) asking for anyones experience on a particular website, not your opinions and moral superiority when it comes to anything like your posts have been saying. If you don't have anything to add to that discussion (and that one alone!), stay out of it. You aren't adding anything, or gaining anything. So there is no point.
I don't know about anyone else here, but one of the most important things to me would be honesty. If I could not trust the person that I am with, then what point is there to be with that person.
Then with your take on the whole of the human race being out to attack, con, and scam you, you're going to be alone for a very long time. But realistically, this is not what you feel is the most important. In fact, you don't value it at all. I, and many others here, have been very honest with you, and you have basically just rejected it and us. You look for a lack of honesty to support your views, and oppose any approach that doesn't fit. Or you decide that everyone is being dishonest and looking to take advantage of you. And that has given us most of your threads (pistols, awareness and self defence, bullies and liars etc).
If you want to keep seeing this kind of thing in people, you have no hope, and we cannot help. And there is no point us even trying. So unless you improve, I don't see any reason to continue this discussion. And, as Tez said, if that isn't a conversation stopper, I don't know what is!
