Lets see, can I take criticism. Why have you heard other wise if so they are lying. The head of all Soke council is always telling me I am hearing things from people that are not true. And you know they are honest up standing people.
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Would said Head Soke be that guy who posted right above you? I mean, it's in his sig line.Lets see, can I take criticism. Why have you heard other wise if so they are lying. The head of all Soke council is always telling me I am hearing things from people that are not true. And you know they are honest up standing people.
Would said Head Soke be that guy who posted right above you? I mean, it's in his sig line.
Kacey followed this up very well, beating me to it, when she said that the first, harshly critical statement gave the student nothing to work with. It only told them they weren't doing something right. The second, guiding, statement served to show the student where and how they could improve.
Then it would very much depend on what you considered harsh. I have seen students get insulted because you dare correct their hand position. I have seen people get huffy because a Sifu who has been doing the art they are there to learn from him for over 50 years had the audacity to correct their form. I have also seen a Sifu almost fall on the ground laughing because after much correction a student was still doing the form wrong. And I have learned multiple times that I was doing something wrong and corrected it because a Sifu pretty much knocked me to the ground.
You can learn a lot without any verbal comment and you can learn a lot form a harsh comment as well. If nothing else you can learn if you really want to learn this from this Sifu or not. It is when I started watching what my taiji Sifu was trying to show me and not be so dependent on verbalization and looking for praise that I really started to learn actually.
I think this is a difference in style - communication style, rather than MA style, I mean. The best comment I get from my sahbum is when he watched what I'm doing, nods slightly, and goes on to the next person without saying anything. If I correct someone and they go right back to whatever they were doing wrong, with no sign that they've taken in the feedback, I'll go on to someone who makes a change (even if it's not what I want) when I correct something - because that person is paying attention. If I have to say the same thing more than 3 times... I'll provide feedback to someone else, and the person who's not making changes can come ask me about it, because I'm not going to waste instructional time going over the same thing again and again and again with people who are listening when I do it. But some corrections can't be made through actions, just as some can't be made through words - that's why I use both.Like I have already said here, I was asked by one of my Sifu’s if I was serious or just playing. And told if I am serious I need to work harder and if I am playing we were done training. There was no other comment made and no other information was given, I had to ask and I was then told what I needed to do. IMO it is not up to him to coddle me it is up to me to find out and ask.
So have I... and I had a parent withdraw a student from my class because I told him that his kick was good, but could be better if he changed one thing - because the class wasn't providing the "safe and nurturing environment my son needs". The boy was 8, and still burst into tears anytime anyone suggested he change what he was doing, no matter how gently - and mom would wade in and defend him, usually by yelling at the person who was doing the suggesting and then pulling him from the activity. it wasn't harsh in the slightest - in fact, given comments she'd made in the past, it was as mild as I could make it and still let him know something needed to change - but in her mind, I was being mean and nasty to her little boy, when all I was really doing was trying to get him to kick with the correct part of his foot, so he wouldn't hurt himself when he actually hit something.
As I said earlier in this thread, "An instructor's purpose is to help someone improve; a student's job is to improve. Neither will happen without feedback." Feedback can come in all sorts of ways, and is intended to help the student make changes that will cause the student to practice correctly. How that feedback is given - whether oral or physical - can determine how it is accepted. So can the age, gender, experience, cultural background, and a host of other factors, on the part of both the student and the instructor.
I don't think anyone ever suggested that all criticism had to be oral. I responded the way I did because it seemed to fit Jenna's original question. I walk around my class all the time moving a hand, foot, head, torso, etc. into a different position - because it's much more effective in many cases that demonstration or oral comments. I do a lot of demonstration for the same reason.
I think this is a difference in style - communication style, rather than MA style, I mean. The best comment I get from my sahbum is when he watched what I'm doing, nods slightly, and goes on to the next person without saying anything. If I correct someone and they go right back to whatever they were doing wrong, with no sign that they've taken in the feedback, I'll go on to someone who makes a change (even if it's not what I want) when I correct something - because that person is paying attention. If I have to say the same thing more than 3 times... I'll provide feedback to someone else, and the person who's not making changes can come ask me about it, because I'm not going to waste instructional time going over the same thing again and again and again with people who are listening when I do it. But some corrections can't be made through actions, just as some can't be made through words - that's why I use both.
Why don't you respect them?Absolutely not. Just because someone offers something to you, doesn't mean you have to accept it. If someone offered you poisen...would you eat it? The advice of someone you don't respect, especially if it is non-constructive or comes from a place of ill intent, is, for lack of a better word...'klesha'.
If you don't respect someone, don't let their opinions shape you in any way. Besides, until you are at a certain point (presumablely where you can discern whether or not advice/correction is useful), you should only listen to your primary teacher anyway.
Why don't you respect them?
Sean
is that not a rather facile way to look at harsh criticism my friend? If a senior master of yours - someone revered and venerated - begins to preface his critique of your technique with "that looks quite amateurish, but.." or "if you were a beginner I would overlook it, but.." Would your opinion change? I dunno. I just find that tactless in a private 1-2-1, let alone in an open hall. Maybe we are over sensitive and touchy nowadays. But then this ain't feudal times. Is a master to be excused for tactlessness simply by virtue of his rank above you, and which is nothing more than his having begun his training before you? Sorry *rant* And but I wonder is harshness a Japanese thing? I do not think so really. I am well lost. One-way respect between master and student is quite improper and but it does happen. I have seen this on more than one occasion. When I gave tuition, I never, absolutely never criticised with harsh intent. Students need a sense of success, no matter how advanced they may be. If I were ever to clash personality-wise with a student, I would surely not hide my feeling in a criticism of their technique. Pffft.. Maybe some guys have hormonal days too?I'm wondering - have we grown soft or something? When a technique is wrong, it's wrong - there's no other way to phrase it, is there?
I'm not saying it has to be phrased as above - although with some students it does (or with the parents of some students, anyway) - but just saying to a junior color belt - or even a senior color belt or a black belt - "this is wrong" does not give them anything to fix. It's hardest, of course, with a junior, because they have the least amount of information on which to draw in determining what is wrong - but as an instructor, I'd rather say "this foot position on this kick needs to be x instead of y" than "your kick is wrong" - the former gives the student something to work on, while the latter doesn't. How politely the statement "you need to change this" is made depends on the art, the instructor, and the age and experience of the students.Well, I've read the posts in this topic and I'm wondering - have we grown soft or something? When a technique is wrong, it's wrong - there's no other way to phrase it, is there?
When my Pencak Silat teacher says 'you stance is incorrect' or 'you're doing it completely wrong', he isn't trying to inflate his own ego - he's just saying that I'm doing it wrong and need to correct my mistakes.
Well, I was referring to um, 'plain' criticism... Not to the abusive kind, but to the plain 'you're doing it wrong' kind. To me, it seemed as though some people can't take it when someone clearly tells them that they are wrong without adding a compliment or so to keep them from being offended...Jenna said:is that not a rather facile way to look at harsh criticism my friend? If a senior master of yours - someone revered and venerated - begins to preface his critique of your technique with "that looks quite amateurish, but.." or "if you were a beginner I would overlook it, but.."
Perhaps it would... For instance, in Iaido, there are really certain 'mistakes' that lower levels are 'allowed' to make, but which are really prohibited for higher ranks people.Jenna said:Would your opinion change? I dunno. I just find that tactless in a private 1-2-1, let alone in an open hall.
Well, no . I didn't say that that was allowed... But a master shouldn't be 'forced' to 'dress' his comments in silk (is that an English expression?) in order to keep his students... It's a bit of a two way connection - the teacher shouldn't verbally abuse his students or make them feel worthless, but the student ought to understand that a teacher is only trying to make you learn when he criticizes you...Jenna said:Is a master to be excused for tactlessness simply by virtue of his rank above you, and which is nothing more than his having begun his training before you? Sorry *rant*
Yes, that's true - and that's why an instructor should always say how you can make it right. (my instructors always do this). However, I don't see why it's necessary to almost 'hide' the fact that something is wrong...Kacey said:but just saying to a junior color belt - or even a senior color belt or a black belt - "this is wrong" does not give them anything to fix.
Hey ChingChuan I can see your points in your post but..
But then this ain't feudal times.
That's not to say that students shouldn't be corrected, taught, or steered in the proper direction, but there is no reason why we shouldn't be taught in a modern, culture-specific way.