I'm a woman.
I started kungfu awhile ago, simply because i wanted to experiment 'something/whatever' chinese. It had to have a really 'asian' flavor, meaning be as much traditional as possible. My knowledge of martial arts then was limited to the TV show 'kung fu' with David Caradeen... I had no clue of what to expect, but i knew i was not interested in learning to fight unless there would be some sense in it. The philosophy, the ideal, the understanding that accompanied the training are what made me stick to it for so many years. The pains, bruises, injuries, humiliations (occasionally), calices, had a meaning, a purpose, a value.
I would never endure this type of training for a medal, for pleasure, to defend myself or to be social. No f___ way. What i value the most in this type of training is the challenge, the constant learning, the rewarding work, the discipline, the humanity, the humility, the perspective on life. Learning to fight is part of the deal, and it is a very interesting aspect of the art. What i dislike about sparring though is the 'i'll beat the crap out of you and we'll figure out afterwards what works and what does not'. I guess i am more a 'theory-to-practice-to-theory' person than a 'practice-to-theory' person... As a woman, using my brain before my muscles has always paid off... just using my muscles usually result in a lesser success rate.