No, you were not being addressed.
Did my example make sense to you? Many "Hapkido" schools use loose grabbing, and jumping into throws....which is contradictory to the development of the techniques.
I too have seen that type of "hapkido." But that is just bad practitioners or bad instructors.
When a new student shows up on the mat, and is shown a technique, I hope he grabs hard and resists: it always makes the technique MORE effective.
But then when I show it to him, I grip firmly (not rigidly with all my strength) but allow him to make the movements with no resistance so he moves in correct motion. At times when I see him doing something wrong, resisting some can show him how it won't work. But then I relax somewhat to allow him to get repetitions without using strength to wrestle with me — which will inevitably throw off the correct motion unless it is already well-trained.
Later we have techniques we practice against full resistance: my instructor said he wants to see our wrists hairless because the gripping has worn it away. And it HURTS to be the guy grabbing hard. Much worse than standing around with a firm, relaxed grip. And — I don't trust beginning belts to do wrist techniques against my resistance: they don't have the "feel" for the technique to realize when they have overcome resistance and stop the motion before it becomes an injury.
Now regarding jumping into throws:
There is one technique we jump to unwind a twisted wrist. I've seen these included in many branches of hapkido. We know it won't make anybody fly through the air. But when I'm doing it, them jumping and breakfalling allows me to crank the wrist-twisting motion further, pull their weight harder.
With throws that REALLY take people off a foot or both feet so they fall into the ground, when I have a new, weaker student I might jump into the throw a bit to make myself lighter (progressive resistance training works, as weightlifters know)
and to make sure I don't get lawn-darted into the mat! New student often can get me up just far enough to drop me on my head/shoulder, sometimes collapse under my weight.
For a more experienced student, however, I might lower my center of gravity, lean back, tighten up to make me heavier, them work hard for it and build strength — but I am not going to squirm in the air to avoid a good breakfall landing like they do in judo competition to deprive opponent of a point. Instead, I am going to "fall" and attack the mat with a good breakfall position. I'll probably start that thought process as soon as my feet are off the mat — so I'm not "jumping" at all — I'm just tucking my head to protect my head and neck and chambering/striking the mat with my hand and feet.
If a technique is going to jerk my feet off balance to face plant me, if it can be managed I'll flip and breakfall to my back. Front falls with my hips and feet above me driving my head and shoulders into the mat are no fun. We know attackers aren't going to do that and make that point clear on each of the throws. Even with a hip or shoulder throw, they probably aren't going to come down on their back, but will starfish their arms and legs out and tumble-crumple into the ground. Ouch.
And then there are a few throws in which the technique locks the elbow out. If you wait for the elbow to lock out and the throw to move you without committing your balance or even jumping ahead of it, it can be super painful and an injury risk.
What does it profit us to train a martial art to protect ourself from injury from attackers if we injure ourselves regularly training?
Finally, if my falling skill is being tested or I am being being thrown repeatedly so a thrower can get full throw reps, I am not jumping — but I am relaxing until the moment before impact (when I "attack" the mat).
Getting thrown 20 times in 30 seconds like that is exhausting enough, a high-intensity exercise.
Trying to resist 20 throws would be SUPER high intensity exercise.
