dancingalone
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I would say it is tough to be personally detached all the time and also is tough to understand the reasons why, if you were not brought up in a culture that emphasizes that and other things that are tough to understand, from your cultural perspective.
Agreed. I've mentioned this one or twice here. I'm actually of Asian heritage, born in the old country, left when I was 2. I didn't have the buddy, buddy relationship with my father that so many here do. I remember being embarrassed that he wore suits to my football games. I hated how he never considered anything I did in sports to be as important as my school work.
Not sure in retrospect if my upbringing was a bad thing, but I know growing up I wished my father was more like my friends' dads. It's funny that my sensei, the man that has the most influence on me martially, is in a lot of ways exactly like my father.