Which is why I'd want it to be more of a message
To be honest I usually try to set the goals for parents. If they came to the school because they want their kids to have better discipline and more respect, then I quickly inform them that we teach practical martial arts and that much of what is trained in the school can really hurt others. While I'm willing to work with kids, the child has to have a minimum understanding that what we do can hurt others. We have to be responsible for each other's safety. At any point of during class their may be weapons around and to say sorry for hitting someone with a staff due to horse playing is not an acceptable apology.
Right off the bat I let parents know that we don't do this type of stuff.
For me as an instructor and student, fighting is serious and it demands the same respect as going to a shooting range. If parents are fine with that, then I'm fine with teaching. I know some schools aren't like that where respect and disciple are a main focus. If this is where you are trying to position yourself then you are doing the right thing.
At black belt you're supposed to have a firm grasp on the basic techniques of the art. So it's less about the goal, and more about what comes first, the stances and blocks, or the kicks and punches? By the time a student is a green belt they should have all of them.
I would have thought a black belt would have a firm grasp of advance techniques.
Here's how I taught based on the goal to make it possible for all of my students to be able to fight using Jow Ga kung fu techniques.
1. Stances - because strong trees grow from the root up. Everything is weak without a strong stance and understanding of rooting.
1a. Footwork - It's not good enough to be still. Our feet must know what to doe without us having to think about how to command them. They must work in harmony and move without thought.
1b. Punching - basic structure so student don't injure themselves while punching others or punching bags
1c. Kicking - basic kicking structure so the students don't injure themselves and cause long terms joint damage.
Blocking doesn't come until much later. The first 4 things gives them enough skills to fight back without hurting themselves. It doesn't mean they will win a fight, it just means they won't hurt themselves in a fight.
For example, Kid misses target and punches truck At 1:00
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There is much more to punching and kicking than hitting and kicking. I want to students to understand this because I teach long fist techniques and a bad punch can break a hand, finger, or hyper extend an arm. I have a video of my son hyper-extending his elbow after many lectures of me telling him not to fully extend his arm, and the dangers of it. There are just many things in Martial Arts application that will hurt a child if they get the structure wrong.
If you aren't teaching students how to actually apply martial arts techniques then you have no worry about them using it to fight. Most students who don't know how to use martial arts techniques will usually revert back to some basic kickboxing and punching skill set.