Respect

[JowGaWolf]

Not holding the door open for someone behind you who has both hands full. Ignoring a co-worker who clearly needs help moving a large heavy object.

Wow.. That's a really big difference between how I see those things.

 

[Kung Fu Wang]

If you hold the door open for them, is that respect?

That's not "respect" You just try to protect that person from being injury. When you save a child from a car in the street, you don't respect that child. You save that child. That child should respect your behavior instead.

I do think the word "respect" has been abused here. Respect to me is something that come from the bottom of my heart.

A: Should we pay evil with good?
B: If you pay evil with good, what will you pay good?

If you respect everybody, which word will you use to someone that you truly respect from the bottom of your heart?

 

[Dirty Dog]

True, that's why I didn't do it. In the end it only would have hurt my career anyway. Still though, what a tool bag.

You don't think even wanting to physically assault them for such a minor thing might be the overreaction I was talking about?

 

[JowGaWolf]

It's like smiling. You don't need a reason to smile or show respect. You do need a reason not to.

Correct

 

[Kung Fu Wang]

Correct

If you smile 24/7, what will you do if you are truly happy?

 

[Dirty Dog]

If you smile 24/7, what will you do if you are truly happy?

Why do you assume they're not truly happy?

 

[Kung Fu Wang]

Why do you assume they're not truly happy?

Why do you assume that I don't know if they are not truly happy?

 

[Dirty Dog]

Why do you assume that I don't know if they are not truly happy?

The assumption is implicit in your question.

 

[Kung Fu Wang]

The assumption is implicit in your question.

To me, if a smile comes from the bottom of my heart, it has value. If it's just a facial expression, it has little value.

 

[shihansmurf]

Seems like a lot of people are using respect to mean polite. This coupled with the fact that a lot of folks equate being treated with respect means to be deferred to as an authority or social superior is causing a lot of confusion in this thread.

I'm polite to everyone. I'm cautious as to who I defer to.


Mark

 

[Bujingodai]

Boy there are a lot of semantical arguments here.

Maybe we can discuss being pedantic.

 

[Fungus]

A forced smile makes me more reserved than a relaxed but sincerly grumpy face.

This thread is starting to give me headache

The alternative safe strategy is to initiate with a preemptive strike, just in case. You can always apologize later - I hear showing that you can be wrong is very popular and manly.

 

[Bujingodai]

A forced smile makes me more reserved than a relaxed but sincerly grumpy face.

This thread is starting to give me headache

The alternative safe strategy is to initiate with a preemptive strike, just in case. You can always apologize later - I hear showing that you can be wrong is very popular and manly.

This is true, when I look at my employees.... a good throat punch not only establishes to them how I am feeling, so I am respecting them by communicating. As well it makes me feel better so I am respecting my own feelings.

 

[JowGaWolf]

If you smile 24/7, what will you do if you are truly happy?

ha ha ha smile bigger

 

[JowGaWolf]

Maybe we can discuss being pedantic.

hmmmm give me an example

 

[JowGaWolf]

This thread is starting to give me headache

As long as it's a respectable one

 

[Kung Fu Wang]

A forced smile makes me more reserved than a relaxed but sincerly grumpy face.

The book I'm reading, one guy always smiles before he starts to kill. When people see him smiling, people start to run away.

 

[Kung Fu Wang]

This thread is starting to give me headache

When you say that you are

- "loyalty" to everybody, or
- "love" all women on earth, or
- "respect" all strangers,

The word that you are using start to lose the original meaning.

 

[Hot Lunch]

Seems like a lot of people are using respect to mean polite. This coupled with the fact that a lot of folks equate being treated with respect means to be deferred to as an authority or social superior is causing a lot of confusion in this thread.

I'm polite to everyone. I'm cautious as to who I defer to.


Mark

Okay, so for people who are saying that "respect is earned" - and insist on using the word "respect" and not "deference" - what is the default? Is it disrespect? Is it contempt? What is it?

 

[Kung Fu Wang]

what is the default?

The default is "don't care".

I don't expect people to respect me if I haven't done anything to them. One day when I save the earth from alien attack, I may expect some respect from the earth people. Until then, I'll be happy if those earth people just treat me "friendly".