Take their back control them in a bear hug.
There is a cool little arm lock I do but it is hard to explain.
In California, the above or something like it...which I use...is by far the more sensible and smartr and safer means of self defense. I worked HRSP for more than a dcfade, and have faced more than my fair share of irate female assailants. Some of them armed. Hammering a woman the way we men would hammer an aggressive man is very much frowned upon in general in society; and in my experiences it's similarly frowned upon in the LOS ANGELES COUNTY area.
As a private person, I have been attacked by inebriated high and just flat out aggressive women before, too. Tall, big women who were oftentimes ganxtas or raised by ganxtas. They routinely beat up the average untrained guy around their size or smaller.
Usually I made them quit altogether because my footwork, agility and conditioning was vastly superior to theirs. Keep an aggressor working at a high rate for a minute or more and the average attacker will gas out.
For the 5 times that the above wasn't an option, due to close quarters and blitzkrieg attacks? The many subtle areas overlooked in sport combat is very helpful. Taking a woman's back and sinking in the hooks GIVES THE APPEARANCE OF DOING HER DISPROPORTIONATE INJURY TO THE UNTRAINED AND/OR CYNICAL EYE. In this day and age especially, I don't want to be the Black guy that the police see backmounted on some "helpless" female. Especially backmounted and throwing blows, sinking any kind of lock or choke, or whatever. Especially whil she's screaming and worked up and so are the witnesses.
Blocks. Power Stances capable of repelling and/or redirecting aggressive charges. Elusive close quarter footwork. Traps. Pushes at the hip/thigh area. Tenkan like movements are very helpful here. Especially if executed at ankle height or so. Some of the Afrikan skills that spawned the legendary agility we see in the Afrikan art miscalled "Capoeira"...called in our family " Osun/Yemoya/Olokun fáfá funrayin ko" or "ustadi kukwepa" which roughly translates as "skillful evasion" or sometimes "skillfully evading" [ Osun, Yemoya, and Olokun are incredibly powerful orisha of the waters. Osun is the orisha of rivers lakes etc and is the daughter of Yemoya, Mother of Gods and Queen of the Oceans, Seas, etc. Olokun is the Master of the Deeps of the Waters and Keeper of great wisdom and great mysteries. Each have different fighting styles, lessons Animal Styles, etc although each are of th Water Element. ]
The self defense skills called upon for escape and evasion, bodyguarding, neutralizing opponents without hurting them, control and pinning, redirection, unbalancing, buckling, trapping and checking upper and lower limbs to prevent her offensives while guaranteeing the successful execution of skillful evasions which eventually wear hear down mentally and physically because of her repeated failures. This is what we need here. Sweeps, throws, takedowns, etc are too risky, in that they may land you in jail because onlookers are largely untrained and hypersensitive to any manhandling of women. Even tall, big women. Even BUTCH women. Get the automatic benefit of the doubt. Whereas we men? Not so much getting the benefit of the doubt.
So. Learn to block. Learn to evade. Learn to move your head. Learn to control with minimal contact. Learn to apply Power Stances. Learn to redirect. Learn to use elusive footwork, level changes, feints fakes and misdirection.
