Because that's how you're going about it. Try looking for someone you simply would enjoy spending time with, whether they were male or female.I wonder why it is that whenever people try to meet members of the opposite sex and to establish a relationship with them they are often left feeling like they are either trying to compete for a job or going to war.
And being someone that people would want to spend time with.
Stop treating it as some game or some hunt, and simply do things that interest you with other people. By definition, they'll be interested in the same thing... and you just might be amazed at what happens if you're simply yourself.I've never figured it out, but that is how I often end up feeling as I myself can just never seem to meet any real quality women either online or offline.
Without giving someone you don't hardly know nearly a thousand bucks.
I'm not saying that to be mean, but from what I have seen a lot of people out in the world seem to run on things like fear and greed and trying to overcome any of that seems almost impossible because if you don't look or act certain way then they can and will cut you down and try to make you feel as though you are the worst person on this earth.
The only reason that I can think of as to why people tend to do that outside of fear and greed is ego and while I have not been able to prove it as of yet I am strongly thinking that many of the ideas that we get relating to love, romance, and sex basically comes from the media and the way we tend to view one another in society due to the way that we were taught and due to peer pressure as well.
These are just what I think might be some of the causes, but I may be wrong. All I know is that I am asking myself as to what I can change about myself so that I am not only more successfull financially, but in all areas of my life.
Once again, I'll note that there is EXACTLY one thing in common with all of the complaints you're making. When you change that... you'll probably find the rest changes too.
For what it's worth... My wife and I actually met online. Neither of us were looking for romance that way; we simply were participating in message boards that interested us. One thing led to another, we met in real life, and a few years later got married.