I found that Eharmony was obnoxious, and you had to go thru a whole bunch of rigamaroll before you could even talk to anyone it matched you with... assuming you wanted to in the first place, since they dont let you select a lot of traits that may be important to you like Prior Marital Status, Kids, Body Type, etc... and even in the catagory of Age, it only gives you a very narrow range of ages to choose from.
FWIW, I met my current Girlfriend online, on OKCupid, which is free. Plus there is plenty to do on there other than just meet dates, so its like a Dating Social Network site. Its a good place to just post who you are, blog, take quizzes, answer questions, chat, forum, be yourself, and make some friends and do some dating. I had more dates in 3 months on there than I did in 12 months on Match.com... and I paid for match.
I know what you mean about eHarmony. I was once matched with one girl that was supposed to have been from the L.A. area and in her profile she was complaining as to how men only saw her as 'sex on legs' and that is how she quoted it.
I thought that she might actually be down to earth and would talk to me, but instead of her talking to me she closed things out halfway through the question and answer process.
My former sister in law said that she tried it as well, and that she never really met anyone on there that was really worth anything. One guy that she supposedly talked to supposedly went on and on about his possesions and that according to her was about it.
I've also had a friend that thought that he was a regular Casanova and he supposedly was pretty good or at least according to him when it came to picking up women, but he said that when he lived in the L.A. area he had a hard time getting any of the girls there to give him even the time of day because they were so stuck on themselve's.
He is not the only one that has noticed that as some of the seduction and attraction experts that have lived in that area said they noticed the same thing and I personally have noticed it myself as well both online and offline.
I'm not putting down any of the ladies that are on this forum at all so I hope that they will understand that nothing I say is personal to any of them at all. One thing that I and a lot of other guys have noticed is that the better looking a woman is the more often she tends to act like a snob.
From what I have studied both from the seduction and attraction experts and from my own reading as well as what I have experienced personally as well many women like that tend to develop defense strategies because more often than not they are often hit on by guys that they really don't want much to do with. There is a name for it, but I can't say it in public here because it would be considered offensive, but from what I have studied relating to men and women both genders tend to have developed different ways of how they approach the whole dating, mating, and relating game.
I use that word because it is a game in that both men and women both want basically the same things, but have different strategies for getting there.
While men basically tend to think about sex all of the time, women on the other hand tend to think more about romance and from what I have learned about the whole dating, mating and relationship game women more often than not do not get the romance that they desperately seek from men and that is why romance novels are so popular with women.
