Where would you take a girl out on a first date?

There is a lot of great advice here.

I have to laugh a little because my first date with my husband was him teaching me archery in a manure pile. It came about because I knew he was interested in me and he mentioned archery. I've always wanted to try it so he offered to teach me. The manure pile was next to my sister's house (landscapers) and it was just like dirt with no smell and it didn't hurt the arrows when I missed the target. We had a great time because we were able to talk. But not every girl would say with pride her first date was archery in a manure pile! You know this girl better than we do. A meal at a cafe or restaurant is a great idea, but if she's up for something fun or unusual...

edit: Oh, and I agree 100% about being a gentleman!

Robyn :asian:

"Hey, what are you guys doing over there?"

"Oh, just shooting the ****." :rofl:
 
I would stay away from the event dates. Someone mentioned a hot air balloon and some other stuff of that ilk. Save that for a girlfriend or wife. A date is to get to know someone to see if they are worth spending time with, it's not about dropping insane amounts of money on a virtual stranger while setting up expectations that ever time out with you will be like some rap video.

I'll give you the details on a date with my college girlfriend. Firstly I had her meet me at my house. Because that sets up a situation where after when you invite her in again she would have already been there so there's no apprehension, she knows you are a clean, neat person. She's been in the door, checked out your kitchen, snooped around a bit while you looked for your socks.

Then we walked to a local Mexican place where a friend and his 2 brothers work. Because to be yourself you should have the date in familiar surroundings. It should be as if you would have gone to the place and done that anyways, it's a privillage to come along with you. You would have went there for dinner and watch the soccer game anyways. In fact, weirdly enough, my buds showed up while we were there, but they got another table.

Next we walked to a park, while on the way checking out a used book store. Those are good because every book on the shelf is a conversation, from how much you love something to how much you hate it, to jiving her about her love for silly romance novels. I got myself something and got her something that I had read and she showed interest in.

We went to an old clothes store to check out the funky tie dye, bell bottoms and such. Then upon arrival to the park we found a spot in the middle of the action by the fountain. There were break dancers, singers, all kinds of weird street performers doing there thing as well as people! Adults, kids, weirdos, people with dogs, all great topics to talk about.

Then we went back to my place and watched that evening's episode of Seinfeld. And she was my girlfriend for 4 years, even lived together. The moral is, be yourself, do what you do.
 
I think that Omar's approach is a valid one, but I would prefer a man to pick me up at my home and take me out. He doesn't need to drop a lot of money on me, but a first date should demonstrate that the man values me. He can show this by being gentlemanly, and having me meet him at his house is not in line with that, in my opinion. This is not a comment on you, Omar...it is simply a description of how a man's actions would be perceived by me.

I'm with you, Jenna...it's not fair that Sukerkin is already taken. Boo hoo!
 
The sentiment expressed in Omar's last sentence is the essence of it all at the end of the day; most particularly if it is hoped for a relationship to flower.

As an aside, my blushing thanks for some of the very kindly spoken words above. It is reassuring to hear that I have not been overly blundering or mistaken in my intent and actions when it comes to what are delicately referred to as affairs of the heart. I must confess though that I am far from perfect ... just ask my missus :D.
 
Eeeeeeee!!! This is so exciting! A first date is absolutely the most exciting and fun thing for a woman. It's all downhill after that.
Not only for women. :)

For myself: nothing works better than go out together to something fun. A casual restaurant and then talk the night away on the swings or at a bench in the park.
And a single flower to begin the evening with, breaks the ice.
 
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Not only for women. :)

For myself: nothing works better than go out together to something fun. A casual restaurant and then talk the night away on the swings or at a bench in the park.
And a single flower to begin the evening with, breaks the ice.

Very nice! You've got game.
 
As an aside, my blushing thanks for some of the very kindly spoken words above. It is reassuring to hear that I have not been overly blundering or mistaken in my intent and actions when it comes to what are delicately referred to as affairs of the heart. I must confess though that I am far from perfect ... just ask my missus :D.

If you're a gentleman, it can make up for a lot of shortcomings in other areas. ;)
 
The sentiment expressed in Omar's last sentence is the essence of it all at the end of the day; most particularly if it is hoped for a relationship to flower.

As an aside, my blushing thanks for some of the very kindly spoken words above. It is reassuring to hear that I have not been overly blundering or mistaken in my intent and actions when it comes to what are delicately referred to as affairs of the heart. I must confess though that I am far from perfect ... just ask my missus :D.

That's what I always say man, you gotta be you. Not an enhanced you, or a highly stylized you. But the you she would see after 6 months together so there are no surprises. Only less four letter words.

On dates I prefer to do what I do and she's accompaniment. If we go out on a Wednesday, she better realize my Wednesday also includes a stop at the comic shop and sushi afterward, then finding somewhere to hang out and read for a while.

Jenny - I hear what you are saying. But I think dating in a big city with good mass transit dates usually don't involve a car. Only time I really use my car is going out of town, or if I've got the family with me. First date I usually try to keep close to my place and she meets me, second date is the other way around. Third date, the most telling one is where you do something special, pick her up, take her out, that whole deal.
 
I should hope yous guys are all so sensitive and eager to please IRL and not just paying lipservice on this here forum!! If so, your partners are lucky girlies and then that is why you are lovingly claimed :) Sincere kudos to you all, it is so nice to hear [and to know] guys who are not "lads" full of bravado and but men who are instead genuinely interested in their girls.. To get it started only takes a genuine interest in what is beyond the superficial.. to make it last takes a little accommodation.. same on both sides :) Like I should know, sitting here on my lonesome haha.. My love and wishes to you all and to best of luck to alphacat.. how soon is the date I wonder?

Jx
 
Wow, I really appreciate your great advices.

I really should be a gentleman during the date but at the same time act like I'm going with a buddy of mine.
I think I'll just ask her what she likes and find something related, perhaps i could make where we go sort of a surprise after knowing what she's into.

I am generalizing, but early on, women love it when you decide where to go and keep an element of surprise.
 
I should hope yous guys are all so sensitive and eager to please IRL and not just paying lipservice on this here forum!! If so, your partners are lucky girlies and then that is why you are lovingly claimed :) Sincere kudos to you all, it is so nice to hear [and to know] guys who are not "lads" full of bravado and but men who are instead genuinely interested in their girls.. To get it started only takes a genuine interest in what is beyond the superficial.. to make it last takes a little accommodation.. same on both sides :) Like I should know, sitting here on my lonesome haha.. My love and wishes to you all and to best of luck to alphacat.. how soon is the date I wonder?

Jx
Just spinning the music you request!

@Jenny: I don't have game, makes me sounds like a playerpimp. :)
I just like spending time with girls that are worth it..
 
Hmm, some very compelling points from Omar about being yourself and not setting up false expectations for the future. I think it's important that you know a little bit about a person before you do that important date date. If it's a "blind date" situation, then IMO that's not the time for a first date, but rather something like the "let's hang out first and get to know one another" scenario like he describes in the above post. Then, when it's established that the both of you have genuine interest, go on the real first date, perhaps to somewhere nice for dinner. A lady does want to feel wooed, if only a little, and a nice dinner date shows her that she is important to him.

So, if you already have had some previous time spent together in a casual setting, it is time for the big First Real Date.

Note, gentlemen: the principle of your lady wanting to be wooed every now and then never really stops! You don't have to spend a lot, just take her by surprise and do somethiung romantic every now and then.
 
Exactly Girlbug. That's why I never support the whole "first date" thing. I like to meet someone for lunch or coffee. It's low pressure, last as long as you want it and there are no real expectations.
 
Jenny - I hear what you are saying. But I think dating in a big city with good mass transit dates usually don't involve a car. Only time I really use my car is going out of town, or if I've got the family with me. First date I usually try to keep close to my place and she meets me, second date is the other way around. Third date, the most telling one is where you do something special, pick her up, take her out, that whole deal.

Point taken, Omar! :) I've always lived in cities and towns where mass transit wasn't the norm, so I'm spoiled.
 
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Well did ya'll go out or what???
 
@Jenny: I don't have game, makes me sounds like a playerpimp. :)
I just like spending time with girls that are worth it..

I meant that in the most respectful way possible, truly! If a man gave me a flower on my first date I would melt into a rainbow puddle on the floor.
 
Give one of those dinner/movie places a shot. I took my Wife to Crescent City Cafe on our first date, the 2nd was a billiards hall (CJ's in Lakewood area of Dallas) and it worked out, as long as you like Cajun food and pool that is.
 
I meant that in the most respectful way possible, truly! If a man gave me a flower on my first date I would melt into a rainbow puddle on the floor.

Thanks, I misunderstood. My apologies. :)
The thing is, when you give the flower
you shouldn't have the look on your face that you are giving it to get into her knickers.. It's my way of overcoming shyness on a first date :)
 
Hmmmm. After reading the suggestions and the responses, I guess I'll have to rethink sharing a pitcher of PBR at the strip club .
 
Hmmmm. After reading the suggestions and the responses, I guess I'll have to rethink sharing a pitcher of PBR at the strip club .

its actually OK, as long as you make her pay for it.....
 
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