I'm missing the connection between this post and the one you quoted, DB. I'm just now having coffee, so it might be my sleepy brain. So, if my reply isn't to what you wanted me to get from that, help me out.No. In regards to what the video and post that was trying to point out that a whole bunch of real fights that people dont die and don't kill.
Kill or be killed in the street may happen but it is only the norm if you choose to make it so.
That is where you made the distinction between self defence and mutually agreed fights.
So the distinction should effect that situation.
My approach to violence on the street is that there's a chance it will turn deadly, whether the attacker intends it so or not. There are safeties in place in sport, and things still turn deadly on very rare occasions there. Getting knocked down on the street, there are hard objects to hit a head on. You don't really know the intention of the attacker. If they want to hurt you, they may not be good enough at it to avoid killing you by accident. Thus, every incidence of street violence has to be treated as something potentially deadly until the moment when that potential appears to no longer exist. That moment is reached when the attacker actively disengages, flees, is subdued, or is otherwise unable to attack...and the area is clear of anyone who appears to support them.
That, however, is not only true of self-defense situations. Let's say I'm in a bar, and some goober (thanks for putting that word back in my vocabulary, by the way) thinks I've been eyeing "his girl" all night. Maybe I have, maybe I haven't - doesn't really matter. He comes over and starts talking ****. He's saying he's gonna kick my *** and show me how to respect a man. I'm done with my beer, it's getting late, and I could just leave. He's only in the monkey dance stage, and isn't really showing signs of being ready to start hitting (of course, I'm on the ready, just in case). So, the easiest self-defense thing would be to leave. But I decide not to. I step to him and mouth off back, telling him she'd probably appreciate him doing that, so "his girl" can see what it looks like when a real man uses him to clean the floors. Now he's not just monkey dancing - he's enraged. We end up - predictably - in a fight. That's not self-defense, but I'd have to treat it as a potentially deadly situation, because he might be mad and/or stupid enough to take it there, or he might just do the wrong thing and hurt me that badly.