Flying Crane
Sr. Grandmaster
I'm not even referring to self-trainers. I'm referring to people who have been classically taught! Explain THIS to me. Fact, money doesn't buy you talent. Money doesn't buy you a good teacher.
there are a whole lot of lousy martial arts "teachers" out there, people who should not be teaching. Their students reflect this. Yet in the mainstream, this is becoming more and more common. So it's true, it can be difficult to find a good teacher, and one often ends up with a lousy teacher.
But trying to go it alone and pretending that method is a viable alternative is self-delusional. It doesn't work. As you've noted, lots of people who have trained under a teacher, even a good one, can't use what they've learned. Some people never get the knack of it, even with the best instruction. Some people are just like that.
If it can be so difficult WITH good instruction, why in the gods' names does someone think they would be successful WITHOUT good instruction? It boggles the mind.
and the notion of money never came into my mind. Cost is no guarantee of a good teacher. But a good teacher is a must. There is no way around that.
In all fairness we don't even know if his grandfather knows quality wing chun or not. You're just going based on what he's told you. Remember that he does not yet know Wing Chun.
If that is the only option, I'd start with the grandfather any day, over going it alone. At least it's something, from somewhere who's walked the path before. Might not be worth continuing with, but it's *probably* better than nothing, and certainly better than thinking he can figure this all out himself.
I'm sorry, but I've just been training for far too long to ever encourage someone to go about it this way. There are FAR FAR too many subtleties involved, things that you cannot pick up from video or books or articles, precise movements and positions that MUST be guided by a skilled teacher, and this stuff simply cannot be done alone. Get a teacher, or spend your time doing something else. Life ain't fair. Sometimes you don't get to do what you want, because what you want isn't available.
There was one good line from the original Karate Kid movie: Mr. Miyagi, on seeing Daniel practicing his kicks in the living room, "Ah, karate... you pretty good! You learn from book?"
It was painfully obvious that he had no good training.