Hanzou
Grandmaster
If the guy is better than you at ONE thing, it sounds like you're going to lose. I might lose against a better striker, but I have enough variation in my training to at least try something else.
Grappling isn't one thing. So if someone is superior to you in all the different facets of grappling, you're more than likely going to lose.
I understand exactly what you mean. In every self defence situation you will try to make your opponent hit the ground. Good luck.
So your goal with Kung Fu isn't to knock someone out, or incapacitate them?