Oni_Kadaki
Green Belt
I've known guys who are more concerned about a submission than they are about everyone walking off the mat happy, healthy and whole. I generally avoid rolling with such guys.
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Use your words? If your training partner is training in a way that you find inappropriate, talk to them and find agreement on what is and is not."I'm keen to continue rolling with you but I think we can both get more out of it: here's how."
Maybe work with him after class with the emphasis on co-operative training to learn rather than training to win. Talk about what you both learn from a roll each time. Sometimes young people just need a little shift in perspective.
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Yes he's been doing it for 3 years and has competed he knows the rules
Oh yeah because making a kid cry is such a great thing to do and doing that would make me so tough and not a total douche. If that's how you act then that shows the kind of person you are. I'm not going to injure a kid for a stupid piece of fabric.Knee ride his face until he cries and get your own blue belt.
Honestly if you can handle the guy I still don't see the issue.
That's because not everyone is a coach and have no desire to be. I'm not a coach I'm not going to hold this kids hand when he's acting like a punkYou think like a teacher or coach. Not everybody can do that. Too bad.
I'm not his coach or his daddy..(at least I hope not lol) so I'm not going to spend extra time working with a kid who's been violent towards me and others. That's up to the instructor and his parentsUse your words? If your training partner is training in a way that you find inappropriate, talk to them and find agreement on what is and is not.
"I'm keen to continue rolling with you but I think we can both get more out of it: here's how."
Maybe work with him after class with the emphasis on co-operative training to learn rather than training to win. Talk about what you both learn from a roll each time. Sometimes young people just need a little shift in perspective.
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Yeah, that's disappointing. If the instructor is right, it's by luck, IMO. This could give the kid an ego boost, so he doesn't feel the need to prove himself. It could just as easily make him feel less secure, with more need to prove he deserves the rank. It could also lead him to think his past approach is better than others', and that's why he got the rank.Well there's an interesting development. I went there today. I haven't been there in a few weeks because of other stuff happening and the instructor said to me he'd sorted the issue. I said okay fine. I didn't ask what he'd done because it's not my business. Anyway it was open mat first and I was watching because there was uneven numbers and the kid was rolling and I saw he was still just as aggressive and dangerous. I mentioned this to the instructor and he said. Don't worry it'll be sorted today. So anyway class happens (where the kid literally head butts someone when he's mounted) and I see what he did to solve it. He gave the kid a blue belt...I couldn't believe it tbh. I mean the kids not that great he's not terrible but he's equally matched with me I'd say and I'm certainly not a blue belt level plus the fact he's dangerous and hurts people. I saw a few looked not so happy. I know the instructor from 20 years ago so I haven't got a problem speaking up. After class I went up to him and said is that really you solving it? His answer was yeah by giving him a blue belt it'll make him happy which means he's less likely to hurt people. Honestly I was disgusted. First it's giving away undeserved rank which in itself I hate, second he promoted someone to stop them getting upset and hurting people. That's just wrong very disappointing
it's reasonable psychology, to promote someone and say, now your " senior" you have responsibilities to help others improve rather than try and dominate them. I've seen any number of trouble makers be promoted in a work environment and change their behaviour completely, now they are " management"Yeah, that's disappointing. If the instructor is right, it's by luck, IMO. This could give the kid an ego boost, so he doesn't feel the need to prove himself. It could just as easily make him feel less secure, with more need to prove he deserves the rank. It could also lead him to think his past approach is better than others', and that's why he got the rank.
I don't think it's reasonable psychology. It's not a predictable outcome that they'll respond as desired. I've seen examples of exactly the opposite reaction - they decide what they did was what got them promoted (and, actually, they're right - just not for the reason they think), so they do more of the same.it's reasonable psychology, to promote someone and say, now your " senior" you have responsibilities to help others improve rather than try and dominate them. I've seen any number of trouble makers be promoted in a work environment and change their behaviour completely, now they are " management"
which does admittedly have the side effect of making others who have been better behaved get quite cross, and wonder if being a trouble makers isn't actually a good strategy for careers progression ?
it extremely predictable, there's only two outcomes, you cant get more predictable than that,anything you do must have at least two possible outcomes.I don't think it's reasonable psychology. It's not a predictable outcome that they'll respond as desired. I've seen examples of exactly the opposite reaction - they decide what they did was what got them promoted (and, actually, they're right - just not for the reason they think), so they do more of the same.
Having two possible outcomes doesn't make it predictable. Being predictable, in this case, would mean you could predict (at significantly better than chance) which will occur in a given case. In a workplace, this can be tested with some probationary period, some temporary responsibility, etc. Extra responsibility can be used in a dojo without awarding rank, as well.it extremely predictable, there's only two outcomes, you cant get more predictable than that,anything you do must have at least two possible outcomes.
it's the application of behavioural science, it has a very good chance of being succesful, giving people more responsibility has a good chance of making them behave more responsibly if not your only in the same position as you started and need to do something else like amy other problem solving matrix
no that's just you misusing words again, what you mean I assume is the probability ?? of one the the predicted outcomes occuring. and how exactly are you calculating that ! the application of behavioural science principals, would seem to give a fair chance of it succeeding, across a large population, it's impossible to assess the probability for any one person, with out at least knowing that individual to a good extentHaving two possible outcomes doesn't make it predictable. Being predictable, in this case, would mean you could predict (at significantly better than chance) which will occur in a given case. In a workplace, this can be tested with some probationary period, some temporary responsibility, etc. Extra responsibility can be used in a dojo without awarding rank, as well.
The issue is that if it doesn't work well, you're actually not in the same position as before. You have some folks who saw misbehavior result in early promotion. This has two fairly predictable results: it starts to reset the "norm" of the group (acceptance of behavior is shown to start shifting - in that direction - what others accept as "normal"), and it creates resentment and/or dissatisfaction among those who behaved. So, if it doesn't work, you're in a worse position than if you didn't do it. If it does work, you can still end up in a worse position than where you started, because of those two effects.
You're funny.no that's just you misusing words again, what you mean I assume is the probability ?? of one the the predicted outcomes occuring. and how exactly are you calculating that ! the application of behavioural science principals, would seem to give a fair chance of it succeeding, across a large population, it's impossible to assess the probability for any one person, with out at least knowing that individual to a good extent
Jobo starting an argument again? I zone out when I see his postsYou're funny.