As I said when I posted questions earlier, I have my own opinion, which I had not yet posted. Yes, I think that you can be a good martial artist without being a good fighter, and without being in a fight. One of the best skills I have learned is how to
avoid needing to fight/defend myself in the first place. The confidence one gains as a martial artist is often enough to cause attackers to choose another target - muggers and rapists look for easy targets, especially when attacking women - targets who will not fight back or draw attention to the confrontation. The classic example of this is, of course, from
The Karate Kid:
Daniel: Hey - you ever get into fights when you were a kid?
Miyagi: Huh - plenty.
Daniel: Yeah, but it wasn't like the problem I have, right?
Miyagi: Why? Fighting fighting. Same same.
Daniel: Yeah, but you knew karate.
Miyagi: Someone always know more.
Daniel: You mean there were times when you were scared to fight?
Miyagi: Always scare. Miyagi hate fighting.
Daniel: Yeah, but you like karate.
Miyagi: So?
Daniel: So, karate's fighting. You train to fight.
Miyagi: That what you think?
Daniel: [
pondering] No.
Miyagi: Then why train?
Daniel: [
thinks] So I won't have to fight.
Miyagi: [
laughs] Miyagi have hope for you.
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0087538/quotes
I dislike sparring - less than when I started, when it scared the living daylights out of me - but it is still my least favorite part of being a martial artist; I much prefer patterns and step sparring. Do I teach my students to spar? You betcha... but I am also clearly aware of the difference between sparring and fighting.
No matter how all-out a sparring match is, there are always rules that do not exist on the street - and being a good sparrer does not always equate to being a good fighter. The only way to truly find out if you are a good fighter is to get into a life-or-death fight - something I have spent my MA career avoiding. I am reasonably competent at sparring, but I am also fully aware that there is always someone stronger, faster, taller, better trained, more desparate, etc. who could attack me. In 19 years as a martial artist, I have never been involved in a fight outside the ring, and I intend to do my best to maintain that record for the rest of my life.