I'm am how ever confident in my own abilities. I'm big and fast and strong. If I hit people they fall over, I've done it many times over the years.
allowing some equality in physical and skill abilities
In that case your opponent will also be big and fast and strong, so you can't rely on those physical attributes to give you the edge. Thus the discussion of technique.
Then wrestlers' don't have the advantage that people here suggest. If it we're so, no one would have bothered developing striking arts and only wrestling would exist
The original question was how to deal with a skilled grappler
after you have already been taken down. Asking how to do that without grappling skills of your own is a bit like asking how to deal with a boxer when you have both your hands tied behind your back. Not saying it's impossible, but you're dealing with a sizable disadvantage.
however if I was to fight an expert then I would lose, that's true if it we're boxing expert or a karate expert or a wrestling expert. That's because I'm not an expert. The thread was how to deal with grapplers, not how to fight an interstate champion or a ufc fighter or what ever people have migrated to.
The original question stated "
I am looking for something that will work even with very experienced grapplers". That doesn't mean a UFC champion, but it does indicate an expert,
again, I haven't been wrong yet, if they are fighting in ufc, they are ufc fighters not wrestlers', they have even written it on their gloves so the hard of thinking can pick it up.
which is another clue, punching is not allowed in wrestling, so they don't wear gloves
False dichotomy. Someone can be a wrestler and also a UFC fighter. Just like someone can be a karateka and a UFC fighter or a boxer and a UFC fighter. Some people are all of the above. When a wrestler fights in the UFC, he uses his wrestling skills along with whatever he other skills he possesses to beat his opponent.
This is directly relevant to the original question. The OP asked how to defend against a skilled grappler in a real fight, not in a wrestling tournament. Your original answer - "
hit them, kick them elbow them and knee them, don't grapple with them once they realise that trying to grab your legs or arm is a very painful experience they will stop it" - was based on this context. Hitting, kicking, elbowing, kneeing are not allowed in a wrestling tournament, so clearly you are considering a violent encounter with a grappler in a non-tournament setting which means they are capable of hitting, kicking, elbowing, and kneeing as well. If they get on top of you, they can do it that much more effectively.
BTW - the original question was dealing with skilled grapplers in general, not just wrestlers. I just found your comment "
wrestling is alright for fat blokes that can't punch" particularly amusing because wrestlers tend to be some of the fittest athletes in the world with very low body fat (unless you count sumo wrestlers, who are kind of in their own separate category).
(On the question of "
can't punch", I can't speak for the average wrestler. I can say that a quick survey of my fellow BJJ black belts that I know personally shows that probably around 70% of them are at least black belt or black belt equivalent in some striking art as well. I don't know how representative that is of the community as a whole, but I also note that 100% of the BJJ black belts I know of on this forum also hold instructor rank in some striking art.)