Interesting points.
It all boils down to intent I suppose. Musashi, for example, was very clear that you can gain martial insight from painting and calligraphy. A finger painter isn't a martial artist, but a martial artist can practice his style by finger painting. Ballroom dance is not a martial arts, but I am training every time I go to class with my wife: footwork, timing, rhythm, awareness of intent...it's my mindset, not the activity, that makes me a martial artist in every moment (on good days).
You're muddying things up unnecessarily. We can all improve ourselves through the dedicated pursuit of excellence in anything. And this very dedication in one activity can inform all of the other tasks to which we apply ourselves. Painting and calligraphy could just as easily be cooking or fabric dying or chess or playing the clarinet. All of these things are valuable and the same dedication to improving one activity can carry over to all of the others. But that doesn't make playing a musical instrumental a martial art, nor does it make painting or calligraphy martial arts. Or XMA, to tie it back to the point of this thread.
"Art" is any vehicle or practice for personal expression. When used to describe "martial arts," I think it refers mostly to the parts of training that are more about personal development and performance -- or the styles that emphasize those aspects of training.
And so, I wonder why you would exclude boxing or MMA. It doesn't take long at all to find hundreds... likely thousands of stories about people who were literally saved from lives of crime by finding their way into a boxing or MMA gym.
But even in stories not so overt, everyone who trains in a combat sport knows that they are tested every single class. MMA training is about testing oneself and pushing one's training partners. It's about continual improvement and being better today than you were yesterday. I'd argue that in a combat sport, such as BJJ, MMA, boxing, wrestling or Judo, the training is extremely spiritual, and the self discovery is profound. If that's how you define art, then surely we both agree that combat sports are both Martial AND Arts.
About inclusion -- that earlier list was my feeble attempt to express what it seems many other people believe. Far as I'm concerned, MMA, Aikido, Hapkido, XMA, Wushu and Capoeira are all "martial arts." And if an old master chooses to fingerpaint when his body is too old to run forms, he can -- in his fingerpainting -- still be practicing his martial arts.
You lost me here. MMA, Aikido, Hapkido, Capoeira... yes. I agree. XMA or Wushu? No, although they are likely performed by martial artists who train in a martial art, such as TKD or Sanda.
And fingerpainting just isn't a martial art, regardless of intent. Sorry. I just don't agree. Dale Earnhart Jr. is an awesome race car driver. He's dedicated himself to learning to drive at a very high level. The techniques he uses to coax his car around the track as quickly as possible are well beyond most people. But that doesn't make it a martial art. Even if he translates lessons learned from driving directly to a martial art.
No, XMA doesn't have to be considered a martial art for me to appreciate it...but it feels like we're denigrating XMA practitioners by saying they're not "worthy" of being considered one of us. It doesn't feel "honest and respectful and specific." It feels judgmental and a little bit petty.
Honestly, I believe that this is because you're ascribing more value to the term Martial Art than it deserves. Frankly, it would only denigrate XMA if NOT being a martial art was a bad thing. I don't believe it is. It's not good or bad... it just is. Ballet isn't a martial art, but it's awesome. My family watches So You Think You Can Dance and we love it. I'm astounded at how fit, athletic and talented all of those kids are. They don't care that what they do isn't a martial art. It's very, very cool. Calling it a martial art would be downright weird. It's dancing, not fighting.
Note - not calling you petty, Steve. Addressing the phenomenon as a whole.
Not offended in the slightest. I'm enjoying the discussion.