I think with the best will in the world, SPX, you are looking for too much out of the people you train with. I'd love to be able to train outside class hours but in 20 years haven't managed it because life gets in the way and I have to prioritise, my family comes first and I have a job that makes demands.
Yes, I do understand that not everyone is capable of it. People do have jobs . . . families . . . etc. But not everyone is married (I'm not) and some people don't really have much going on in their lives beyond work.
This is one reason why I wanted some younger people in my class, because they often have fewer commitments and more "fire" (not commitment, mind you, just youthful enthusiasm). I'm looking for the kind of guys who are interested in making a serious competitive run and who want to put the kind of time into training that that requires.
I know there have to be guys like that out there. . .
Many people have this problem, it's not that they don't want to train they can't, they aren't any less dedicated to martial arts they just have commitments they have to honour first. Don't think less of them or badger them for this.
I don't question their dedication and I've never badgered anyone.
I was disappointed that I never found anyone to train with at the Wado school. But I was more disappointed that no one even took the time to visit the website I set up for us all to use. I didn't create it just to set up meet ups, but also just as a sort of virtual gathering place for us to talk about things and get to know each other outside of class. But not a single person from the school ever even registered.
But it's all good.
MMA gyms tend to be run professionally so can be open during the day, TMA places tend to be run by people who have to work during the day hence the evening classes.
Yes, well I think that's part of the "problem." Just like you have boxing gyms, Muay Thai gyms, etc. it would be cool if you also had karate gyms, TKD gyms, etc. You know, the kind of place that is pretty much always open and that teaches classes all through the day.
Basically, I wish traditional stylists had the same sort of opportunities that boxers, kickboxers and MMA fighters do and that's just not the case.
As for the guy you say blanked you etc because you hadn't turned up, if you haven't spoken to him how do you know this is the case? There may have been a more simple explanation, perhaps you should have asked him?
Oh, well at first he refused to talk to me. I would say something to him and he would just give me a nasty look at walk away. It wasn't ambiguous.
Eventually he kind of started talking to me again but he was pretty curt. And this guy is probably 50 years old. No need to act like a child.
I don't think there ever was a 'golden age' of martial arts, perhaps though it's now.
Well I definitely think we're living in an interesting time for martial arts as a whole because of the MMA explosion. So many people are training in SOMETHING.
But there was definitely a time from the mid-60s to I'd probably say the end of the 80s when traditional martial arts were in vogue in a way that is not the case now, starting with the era of "full contact karate" and guys like Joe Lewis and Bill Wallace and moving into the era of guys like Benny Urquidez and Billy Blanks.
Bear in mind I am mostly speaking of the state of things here in the US. I don't know about the rest of the world. But I do think it's definitely true that traditional styles have become a lot more oriented toward kids and have become more of a hobby rather than a serious pursuit for most of the adults who ARE training.
Even when I first visited the Wado school the instructor was like, "We don't get a lot of new people. I think most people are interested in MMA these days."
I understand you want to immerse yourself in a style, perhaps MMA would be good for you as you can train the different elements on different days if you wish.
Like I said, I love MMA but there's some unexplainable tie that I have toward traditional styles and, for better or worse, I just want to figure out a way to make it work (training traditionally, that is).
Not everyone needs to feel a strong personal connection to an instructor to train well, I prefer not to get too close to someone teaching me. I like a bit of separation. I don't want a kindred spirit I'm afraid, I want a good instructor.
Yeah, that's an individual thing for sure.
I've just had a few instructors who kind of kept me on pins and needles and who I just didn't feel like I really had any connection with. After a few rounds of that I'm ready for something different.
I hope though you find what you are looking for, I'm sure it's out there.
Thanks! I appreciate that. I do keep looking.