Some of the stuff they talk about in the Gift of Fear is
- to provide learning opportunities for kids to become confident interacting with ppl (including adults). Encourage them to talk to strangers, to be able to ask for help or directions. what needs to be discouraged is going elsewhere with strangers
- just like adult s-d, if you stay where the other people are, your risk is actually very low.
- how to pick child care staff
- the three things an abductor needs: Access, Cover, and Escape. When he has the ACE, he trumps all other cards.
... and so on.
Kids with knives, haha, I don't know at what age I'd want to give my kid the responsibility of wearing a sharp knife, like if I were to give him my delica or something. One thing is them not being able to take it to school. So "everyday carry" it is not.
Kiai is good. What I teach kids and women alike to scream is:
"WHO ARE YOU???"
In the 70's an experiment was done by social psychologists on bystander helping behaviour. There was a stupid rumour going around (and it still goes, thanks to uneducated MORONS who teach self-defense based on taking martial arts, and reading paperback books and government pamphlets without ever studying the f***** primary research, as if researchers do it for their own f***** health--please know that I HATE you
) that folks should yell "FIRE" because people would be willing to intervene. The psychologists knew that current theory of human behaviour under stress, the more ambiguous the situation, the less likely performance is to occur. Yelling FIRE makes the situation more confusing.
Sure enough, yelling FIRE generated the least bystander helping behaviour. Just yelling RAPE was better.
The MOST bystander interference, though, was generated by yelling"Why are you doing this to me, I don't even know you!!!" This regularly jolted otherwise docile bystanders into frenzies of helpfulness. The psychologists theorized that when ppl see or hear a conflict between one male and one female, they may suspect it to be a "relationship thing" and be reluctant to become involved. That particular yell instantly crystallizes the bystanders' "framing" of the situation, and they jump in. It's not hard to generalize this to children. In fact, some antiabduction folks instruct clients to yell "This man is not my dad!" because otherwise, bystanders just think the kid's being, well,
bad.
The experiment (I think it was Darley and Latane, 1970-something) was very hazardous to do. A recorded "argument" was played loudly from inside a room with the door closed. At the end, they had "the yell", which was systematically varied at random. Two experimenters waited inside to record the frequency with which people entered the room to intervene. And those poor experimenters. One bystander had been taking karate classes and decided to come in and try out his stuff. Another grabbed a fistful of sharpened pencils from a cup, burst into the room, and assaulted an experimenter with them.
Flash-forward to Matt Thomson's "Defend Yourself" book in the late 80's. Under stress, people can generally only recall--what did he say, 5, 7 syllables? So Black Bear says to himself, the best thing to tell people to yell might just be...
WHO ARE YOU??? HELLP!!!!!
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