Joe Eccleston said:
My reasons for ignoring your phone call invitations are exactly for the reasons above. It would be a great waste of my time. Take what you can from what I wrote, but expect no phone calls from me.
First of all, if ya'll (you and some who have decided to "come to the rescue"
) would read what I wrote, you'd see that I didn't call you a troll. I am saying that some of the signs are there. The fact that you offer no real information on your profile to indicate that your a real person is one thing (the same thing that "red blade" and others in the past have been hung out to dry for). The fact that we know very little about your training background, or your links to FMA is another. And, the fact that you refuse to communicate with me on a personal level (even prior to this blow up) is a MAJOR thing also that indicates trollish behavior.
Yes, you have offered some good conversation and good information that doesn't point to "troolish" behavior as well, which is why I didn't call you a troll, I just asked.
So I don't know who or what you are Joe. I don't know if your a genuine guy or not. But, let me tell you one thing I have learned about the net after some hard Introspection...
Internet forum stuff is not "true" communication by itself. Anyone can make up a fake name, give out fake information, and speculate and argue from this false perspective. What do you have when you have a bunch of people in a room with fake profiles speculating with each other? You have FANTASY communication....in other words it ain't real. It's almost like a role-playing game, except people can get hurt in this game on different levels through the politicing. Add this with the fact that things like "tone" and "body language" and other nonverbal communication (the other 90% of communication, I might add) are taken completely out of the picture, and you have a recipe for disaster. It is far to easy to psychologically distance yourself from others in "fantasy" communication, which means that many hurtful things can be easily said and done over the internet.
So, what makes the communication "real." Real information so people know who you are is a good start; however, I understand that some people may have certian constraints (perhaps their job won't allow it) where they can't put up their real info in a public forum. Yet, this is a very rare situation, and most of the time you can put your real info up. Outside of profile, private communication also makes it real, and not just through PM's (although that can be helpful). I am talking about getting on the phone at the very least, and talking with the person your communicating with online. This way you can recognize that the person on the other end of the keyboard as a real person, not some fantasy character with a goofy handle.
Looking back, the times that I was unwilling to communicate privately (much like you in this case) only led to dragged out "fantasy" arguements online. The times I was willing to privately communicate, many of those times unessicary arguements have been were avoided.
In friendly conversation, it doesn't make a difference, but in arguements or debates, "fantasy" communication can be nothing but destructive.
So, I am asking you Joe, do you want to be destructive or constructive? You don't have to call me or anyone (or at least let me call you), but understand that this is you choosing destructive communication over something constructive. Excuses like "it would be a waste of my time" are cop outs, particularly when fantasy communication on a talk forum is a far bigger waste of time then a 5-10 minute phone conversation.
Do what you want, just recognize that it will be difficult for me (and others) to take fantasy communication seriously.
Respectfully,
Paul Janulis
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