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Self control is something one should be taught as a child.
Sexual orientation does not imply compulsion. That is probably the deviance (compulsion) that creates the harm.
"Attraction" is different from acting on ones urges. Does being a pedo equate to not being able to avoid molesting a child?
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Quite easily kill with your bare hands? I have to say, I like your attitude.As with a lot of things such as over eating, not exercising etc the thought of self control doesn't seem to come into it. The excuse that 'I can't help it' is a poor one for things like this, the modern way seems to be that you have to give into your baser instincts. Goodness knows there's a lot of people I could quite easily kill with my bare hands if need be but I don't kill them I'm even polite to them because of self control, self discipline. It's why most of us don't over eat, don't break the law, don't have sex with children etc etc.
Quite easily kill with your bare hands? I have to say, I like your attitude.
And does being a pedo mean you don't have sexual attraction to adults at all?
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"Attraction" is different from acting on ones urges. Does being a pedo equate to not being able to avoid molesting a child?
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The old argument that "They can't help it, they were born that way" has been used for years to justify various activities and proclivities.
Almost as if anything you are born with is automatically and irrevocably a good thing.
Some people are born with Down's syndrome and some are born with Spina bifida, are you going to argue those aren't BAD things?
A lot of stuff is spouted about not being able to control themselves, celebrities who've been caught out shagging are 'sexaholics' so they can't help it and need 'counselling', no, what they have is ordinary lust and they don't feel like resisting it.
Paedophiles will often tell you how 'innocent' and 'normal' their love for children is and how the children benefit from it, so following their logic how is it a compulsion? If it's a sexual urge in the same way other sexual urges are why can't they control it?
The old argument that "They can't help it, they were born that way" has been used for years to justify various activities and proclivities.
Almost as if anything you are born with is automatically and irrevocably a good thing.
Some people are born with Down's syndrome and some are born with Spina bifida, are you going to argue those aren't BAD things?
This is one of those liberty versus security things, and it is a pretty safe bet that eventually security will win.True compulsive behaviour starts with the self-lie that they are in control, and is quickly interleaved with justifications. It's a cage that people build for themselves to protect themselves from the world, to hide from something. Breaking out of it and really asserting control means facing whatever it is that they hide from. It means thinking and feeling instead of ritual. This is not a simple matter, and usually it takes a catastrophe to make people deal with the problem. The flip side of things is that complusive behaviour shouldn't shield them from the consequences of the actions; reasons aren't excuses.
No one is claiming that these results make it a 'good' thing. Merely that with this knowledge in hand, we can look for ways to help those with the potential to offend keep themselves from offending in the first place, rather than letting them lurk until they destroy a child's life and punishing them afterwards; it's not very fair to the child, now is it?
The compulsion is hard to understand. It's hard to have empathy for it. How does it get to the point where a person would prey off of another? This is an issue with serial rapists as well. Certain people feel compelled to act on their attractions no matter what the consequence.