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Was this a self-defense situation, or did it get turned into one by the victim?
Keep wondering what I would have done. Still not sure.
Was this a self-defense situation, or did it get turned into one by the victim?
Keep wondering what I would have done. Still not sure.
Murthy's confrontation began at 3 in the afternoon at the corner of Arlington Avenue and 27th Street in southwest Los Angeles. The engineer was videoing traffic signals in a bid for a school traffic study. His camera was focused on cars whizzing through the intersection, but also captured a softer image of a man leaning against a lamppost.
Once the man spotted Murthy, he walked toward him. The camera kept rolling as the man tried to snatch it.
This is another situation where we don't know what would have happened. Yes, its easy to say give them what they want, but there is nothing to say that you won't be shot anyways.
I keep trying to tell people, and they keep failing to want to accept it--this is a purer, more virulent strain of scumbag coming down the pike nowadays such that you MUST ALWAYS ASSUME they mean to kill you if a weapon is present.
I cannot understand this fear of " oh, what if it gets me killed?"
I could croak here in this chair in 5 seconds if that was what Fate decreed and there'd be ****all I could do to stop it. Why this excessive value of the one thing you are guaranteeed to lose?
To the point it stops you from right action, however dangerous?
No one WANTS to die, no one WANTS to be hurt, no one WANTS to have pain, well, we don't always get what we WANT, now do we.
No one can say until they're in it how they'll react, that's true. But I refuse to live in fear of death for daring to go about my life refusing to submit to violence.
You gotta die of something, might as well do it right.
If there's an afterlife and I meet my family ancestors there, I want to have something interesting to tell them.
No, there is nothing to say that the man would not have been shot anyway. However, the assailant did not produce the gun from his pocket until he had been kicked in the 'nads. Would he have? Don't know. Of course the rules change when a gun is involved.
Personally, I'd rather lean on the side of caution and assume that there is a weapon. Its really no different than a LEO patting someone down. Sure the guy could claim that he had nothing, but the cop doesn't want to assume that.
If I read the article correctly, the weapon was not produced until the victim had kicked the assailant in the crotch. He clearly stated that the man was attempting to seize the camera.
I don't fear dying (well, technically, yes, I do) but more that I don't want to die. It's not fear, it's a choice. I also do not want to leave my wife a widow - I have responsibilities here. I don't want to get speeding tickets, so I don't speed. I don't want to go to jail, so I pay my taxes. I don't want to die, so I try to avoid putting myself in situations where I might be killed.
Because there are not any resets. Whether death is a doorway or the final ending, there isn't any coming back - at least, not to this life, which I like quite a bit.
What is right action? The prime directive of life is to live, to survive. Giving one's life or placing one's life in danger for the sake of another is quite understandable and what puts us apart from the animals. Defending one's own life when the stakes are clear is just as understandable. Fighting over a camera, to me, is not 'right action'.
No, of course not. But we do get to control some of our actions and reactions, which is something I try to do.
Why do you liken avoiding fighting to quivering in fear?
I agree. I just don't agree that dying over a camera in a purely voluntary struggle is 'doing it right'. I'll bet my wife would agree as well. She'd be darned ticked at me if I came home all dead and stuff.
If it means I don't get to have a feast waiting for me in Valhalla, I'm perfectly OK with that. I'm OK being considered a wimp, a weakling, a coward, or what-have-you. I was given this one life, and I like it, and I have no intentions of putting it at unnecessary risk by dying of lead poisoning that I could have avoided.
Again, 20/20 hindsight, but if we have to put ourselves in this man's situation, I have to say that I strongly believe I would have backed up and let him take the camera. I would have done my best to get a description to give to the police. If I saw him going into his pockets for what I would have to presume would be a weapon, then I would reevaluate the situation and perhaps take preemptive action.
I still believe self-defense starts before the violence does.
A police officer has a responsibility which an ordinary citizen does not have. It involves placing his or her life at risk which would otherwise be considered excessive, in order to keep the peace. This man is not a law enforcement officer.
As well, the 'Stop and Frisk' doctrine does not assume that every person an officer meets is armed. If it did, police would be authorized to draw his sidearm and execute a felony arrest on each and every citizen he meets. The SCOTUS also defines 'Stop and Frisk' as a 'brief pat-down', which is not a search, and may not in fact catch all weapons. 'Stop and Frisk' is intended for the officer's safety only - it does not assume that everyone is armed, it ensures that they are not.
Further - if the assailant had been a better shot, the man would be dead. He *did* assume the man was armed in the sense that he attacked him by kicking him in the pills.
Let's say the assailant killed the man. Now what? His wife is a widow, his kids are fatherless, then assailant still has the camera, the gun, and got away (at least for now).
I"m not Andy, but I'll toss my 2 pennies in. I addressed this in my other post.
Likewise, I do my best to avoid certain things as well. However, sometimes trouble seems to find us anyways. Likewise, while I don't want to do certain things either, I also don't feel that I or anyone else, should have to be a victim to some punk. That is what these guys thrive on...fear and intimidation of others. While one person won't change the world, perhaps if everyone started to standup for whats right, eventually things may change.
Like I said, if there is a chance that I may die anyways, may as well do it fighting.
So, I may as well just help the guy who is breaking into my condo, load his car with my tvs, computers, camera, cash, jewelery, etc. I'm sorry, but for me, I work hard for what I have and I don't feel that I should bow down to some dirtbag who wants my stuff. Its kinda like the bully in school. Keep giving them your lunch money and the problem will never end. Stand up to him, and if need be, smack him down a few pegs, literally if need be, then that problem may end.
But to me, this is assuming that if we comply, we won't get hurt. I can try to control the outcome by giving the badguy my money, but when he opens it up and only sees $10, he may get pissed, and shoot me anyways, God forbid its not loaded with $50s.
Because in some cases, people are afraid to fight back. Sure, depending on the case, we could try to talk the guy down, etc., but we need to understand that it may not always work. We shouldn't look for fights, but on the other hand, we should not cower in the face of one either.
So we hand the guy the cash, the keys to the car and now he wants to take my wife with him. Is that the time to decide that we better start acting? I say the time to act is when he's asking for our cash, keys and car.
As I said above, I don't look for fights and do my best to avoid areas and things that may put me in a bad position. I just don't like stepping aside while the BG has his way with my car, cash or my house.
If I read the article correctly, the weapon was not produced until the victim had kicked the assailant in the crotch. He clearly stated that the man was attempting to seize the camera.
I don't fear dying (well, technically, yes, I do) but more that I don't want to die. It's not fear, it's a choice. I also do not want to leave my wife a widow - I have responsibilities here. I don't want to get speeding tickets, so I don't speed. I don't want to go to jail, so I pay my taxes. I don't want to die, so I try to avoid putting myself in situations where I might be killed.
Because there are not any resets. Whether death is a doorway or the final ending, there isn't any coming back - at least, not to this life, which I like quite a bit.
What is right action? The prime directive of life is to live, to survive. Giving one's life or placing one's life in danger for the sake of another is quite understandable and what puts us apart from the animals. Defending one's own life when the stakes are clear is just as understandable. Fighting over a camera, to me, is not 'right action'.
No, of course not. But we do get to control some of our actions and reactions, which is something I try to do.
Why do you liken avoiding fighting to quivering in fear?
Again, 20/20 hindsight, but if we have to put ourselves in this man's situation, I have to say that I strongly believe I would have backed up and let him take the camera. I would have done my best to get a description to give to the police. If I saw him going into his pockets for what I would have to presume would be a weapon, then I would reevaluate the situation and perhaps take preemptive action.[
I still believe self-defense starts before the violence does.
Then you may (God forbid it) eventually be killed to satisfy your need to be live up to a false expectation of what being a 'man' in our society is. That, in my opinion, is not worth dying for, and I humbly suggest your wife and children would agree.
I would be willing to bet that if we asked the LEOs on here or I asked the ones that I know personally, they'd all say to not assume anything. While I fully understand that a civilian is not a cop, my point was that like them, we should not assume that the BG is unarmed. Its the careless actions that will land people in harms way.
Possibly. However, I doubt that every dirtbag criminal has enrolled in the local NRA handgun course.
And like I said, if there is a chance that I'm going to die, may as well go out fighting.
So basically you're saying that we should assume nothing will happen, comply fully and then, only if we feel our life to be in danger, should we act?
I say our life is in danger the minute we're approached by the BG. I doubt that while I'm walking to my car at night, the guy coming up behind me wants to engage in friendly banter.
If you wait for the BG to decide he doesn't want a witness after he's taken your property, you are even further behind the curve than if you acted immediately.
I think you are missing the point that Andy and MJS are making. I don't think it is an overinflated sense of manhood that makes them want to defend themselves against someone trying to take a video camera. I'm thinking that they are thinking as I am. You say constantly evaluate but you must also evaluate beforehand. If you wait for the BG to decide he doesn't want a witness after he's taken your property, you are even further behind the curve than if you acted immediately.
Not to put words in your guys's mouth, but this is my interpretation of what you are saying.