BrandiJo said:and im totaly glad for that i would hate to lose power over my own body and my choices regarding it. i guess i would like men to have their cake but I get to eat it (ie they get to keep a baby if they want it but i get to keep totaly control of my body ...even in pregnancy issues)
but how it can be fair for both people
My take? This way Its a CHOICE issue on both sides?
Guy and Girl Do the deed, Girl gets pregnant.
Girl has Choice, Keep The Baby, Have an Abortion, Go to Term Give it up for adoption or to the Father.
Guy can then file, that she has to Have the Abortion, Can keep the child, and he will support it, or that he will help with the expenses until it is born and adopted.
The two decisons are compared, and work out SOMTHING like this in case of a disagreement: (its not perfect, but its the best I can come up with at the moment)
1) Guy says Abort, Girl Says Keep: Girl Keeps, but bears Financial Responsibility.
2) Girl Says Abort, Guy says Keep: Girl gets to Abort.
3) Girl Says Adopt, Guy says Abort: Girl goes thru term, and gives up the child, and father forfiets parental rights and Financial obligation durring pregnancy.
4) Girl Says Abort, Guy says give up for adoption: Girl gets to Abort.
5) Guy says Keep, Girl says Adoption: Baby goes to Father, Girl gives up parental rights and financial obligation durring pregnancy and afterwords.
This way, no one is telling a woman what to do with her own body, she is free to make the decisions regarding that, but issues regarding the future of the child fall into both hands.
If a child is seperated in cases of Divorce, then either the man or the woman (depending on who gets custody) is ABSOLUTLEY required to pay support, providing it is examined correctly by the courts on an annual basis and expenses are divided up fairly. Obviously if a Mother is making 100,000.00 a year, and a father is making 25,000.00 a year, and the mother has custody, its not FAIRLY divided up to take 20% from the father and give to the mother... and the same applies in the opposite situation... If the mother is making 25,000.00 and the father is making 100,000.00 the mother SHOULD recived that 20%