I would tend to agree there are some things I look at and just go "this has to be an abstract exercise" and the peaceful, post war schooling is mostly this abstraction. My personal theory is that Aikido students used to spend a lot more time getting hit than they do now and I think that philosophy aside, this non competitive stuff has ultimately led to the current crisis Aikido finds itself in and its time to throw off the koombaya routine in favor of maybe an approach as the gentler form of Budo. The original point of this non-competitiveness was to be above competition because you are supposed to be above conflict. Unfortunately, for some of us to be able to carry an Aikido worth saving into the next century, Aikido is going to have to compromise with our western barbarism and give us more of the dynamic updating that some of the more "live" martial arts have received.
You are not wrong though, because now you are getting what Aikido is for, its for the awful punches, wild haymakers, telegraphed knife thrusts, etc, because believe it or not, that's what 99% of people will ever face if they ever have a real altercation. If your opponent comes in visibly knowing what they were doing or your Aikido failed you, the original intent was that you would transition through your Judo and Ju-Jitsu as needed, with the ultimate goal being to reach a level of mastery that allowed you to use the least amount of force possible. This is why I am pretty adamant about the art. I have used some small percentage of everything I have trained but by far the Aikido has gotten the most mileage and its done more work than all the rest of it put together. Does that mean beating opponents into the ground in the octagon? No. It has helped me and others come out of lots of altercations with no one getting seriously injured, sued, arrested, etc and that's a huge win in my book. I am more thankful for the damage I have been able to prevent from learning Aikido than the damage I have ever done with the rest of my martial arts, if that makes sense, that's Aikido.