Success is a spectrum, and its definition is subjective. But I understand your point. I don't think most people want to hurt other people, and that's an impediment to becoming really good at hurting other people.
There's the nut of it. The difference between being committed and being comfortable. I'm suggesting that the former is desirable... the latter is not. Trying to teach regular people to be comfortable hurting or killing other people is counterproductive to a healthy society, in my opinion. That includes cops.
There is certainly a way of going about this that short cuts our humanity. Believe it or not you and I agree this is not good! I don't like the way cops, military combat troops and civilian self-defense training is typically taught. Specifically as it pertains to using counter violence. It leads to either hate or more realistically contempt for your fellow man. That's not good, abs can lead to some serious PTSD after a critical incident.
Keep working on your passive aggressive insults. This one is full of irony. You mock me for not being perfect, while at the same time double down on your original mistake of misquoting me.
For the sake of clarity. Yes, I was SWAT. I was on a part time team and later a full time team. And for the record, if we were face to face I would offer you a hug. I'm a peaceful person, who would rather get along than be in conflict.
Well played, sir.
Get a room, you two.
You have to hug someone to hip throw them, that's part of why I became a hugger.Hi Jared, I really like hugs too, and give them to my friends all the time.
My concern is only when both arms are trapped in the hug and my feet come off the ground.
Experiece tells me I will not like the landing.
Not implying that would happen when / if we meet.
I have heard jiu jitsu referred to as combat cuddling.
This sums things up admirably.
I saw this last night. I have two new students, I asked each to heel kick me in the gut. I do this and walk into the kick. Two reasons, first, to show them how off balance they are, second, to see what their natural reaction and propensity will be to/for kicking a person. In my experience, most think they want to do it, but they fail to follow through with full power until I repeatedly ask them to do it. There seems to be a lot of imagination in new students about what it means and what that experience feels like. It seems to me that a lot of people need permission to let it out. They generally thank me for the opportunity afterwards. I do the same thing when teaching any kind of reverse punch because hitting a person bare fisted is not the same experience as hitting a bag or hitting with gloves. I believe it’s different because it implies trust on my part and imparts the reality of contact in a way that feels safe and somewhat empowering for a new student. It may also inform some that they don’t strike as effectively as they might imagine they do. Again, this is just my opinion and evaluation of my experience. I have only been teaching 8 years, so there is much to learn on my part. Any feedback on this is welcomed.
Hmm. Could you explain this to me? I don’t understand.
I agree with this. Commitment is key, malicious intent can be useful but isn’t necessary. Emotion and intent can intertwine under stress. Being able and or willing to do violence to others doesn’t necessarily mean much without context, and certainly doesn’t address the implications of such action on an individuals view of their own humanity. This is interesting topically to me. I’m only speaking from my own experience here.
Fighting is the second most intimate thing people can do together.
Considering I’m dating a researcher pretty sure it’s not.
They should do their research then...
When your research is looking into behavior in a fire fight, you'd have to be brain dead not to ask "Why".
I didn’t say you don’t ask why, just that’s not what you’re looking to answer in the initial study.
