To Oaktree; unfortunantely my training in Bagua did not encompass that. Perhaps I was not skilled enough. Apology if I am not familiar with it in that system.
To Cyriacus; I am tempted to do either that, sweep the front load-bearing leg, or to torque his shoulders and drop him like that. The problem is that he is about equal in terms of jiujitsu to my hapkido skill, and so is just as likely to take me down once within that grasping range, or will drag me along with him if I do take him to the ground. I am trying to avoid that, both because his ground game is better than mine, but also because I just hate being on the ground. In Krav Maga it's something to avoid in terms of oneself, or if put on the ground get right back up. Just because it goes to the ground doesn't mean it has to stay on the ground. That's my mentality, at least. I understand the importance of having ground-game, but as a very small individual, male, it's something I should generally avoid save when directly working on practicing ground maneuvers.
To Blindsage; I can see very much how that is so. He has experience in Taijiquan. The issue is less that he is striking me in my shoulder, but moreso that he is striking me in my midsection, stomach to above sternum, and that is difficult to roll around. I do that with punching a lot, and while I was able to do that with his strikes, especially handwork, I was not able to his shoulder. The amount of ground needed to initiate it is very minimal. I'm mostly relying on intuition and anticipation that it's his only counter to my close game handwork, rather than reacting as I normally would. I suppose I should practice with him more, concerning it, shouldn't I?
To WC_Lun; I concur that it would be most advantageous to keep my distance. Point in fact, when I did that for the first half of our bout, I did far better than before. Once I decided to change tactic and close distance it became an issue. If this was survival, or competition, I'd agree. Stay the hell out of range. But in terms of technique building and learning, the only way to grow is with contact.
I agree striking has been totally ineffectual. I can see why now thanks to your explanation. Job 1 and 2 I have pretty down pat. Job 3 does feel most often like a reset. I'd say out of 6-7 shoulder strikes, he may get 1 grab in. Considering how many exchanges we may have over a 30 minute sparring session, that's a fair amount to me, even if for others it may be even more, or far less than what they experience. But even those resets are giving him more than I'd like to, which in terms of fighting is total domination, without having to ante up, without taking advantage of experience difference with say being advanced skillwise, and them not.