Ripping my graying hair out!

[granfire]

sadly as a child of this age, VIDEO GAMES.

well for the time being, he lost the laptop....ah shucks, the fun of being a parent.

He likes to draw though.

 

[jks9199]

Have you checked into the possibility of some sort of learning disorder like a mild case ADHD or dyslexia? I want to stress that learning disorders ARE NOT signs of poor intelligence; in fact, it's often the opposite! Often, a student that has troubles though clearly capable of doing the work has something else going on, and it's not always picked up on the way it should be. If that's not the issue... Speaking as someone who coasted through HS, doing what I had to and little more -- he'll probably survive, but he's building habits that'll be hard to overcome. He might benefit from work with a tutor on how to learn and be organized.

 

[granfire]

Have you checked into the possibility of some sort of learning disorder like a mild case ADHD or dyslexia? I want to stress that learning disorders ARE NOT signs of poor intelligence; in fact, it's often the opposite! Often, a student that has troubles though clearly capable of doing the work has something else going on, and it's not always picked up on the way it should be. If that's not the issue... Speaking as someone who coasted through HS, doing what I had to and little more -- he'll probably survive, but he's building habits that'll be hard to overcome. He might benefit from work with a tutor on how to learn and be organized.

We had that idea at some time, but as far as I know (after consulting professionals at one time) he's 'normal'
just smart, cookie, and 14.


We'll have to make sure he takes advantage of what the school offers.
oh, and the organization...

 

[shihansmurf]

My son is doing better. Last year, he would "forget" to turn it in. It's done. It's in his bag. He DID THE WORK.

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We have the same issue. I don't understand the idea of not turning material that you've completed. I mean, I would understand if he just blew it off and didn't do it. I'd still be mad about it but I could at leat understand that. Doing all the work and not turning it it makes no sense to me. I don't get it.

He is getting better about it. The ability to monitor grades online on a daily basis has helped.

granfire,

Best of luck. I'll hoist some Alaskan Amber for ya.

Mark

 

[Tez3]

sadly as a child of this age, VIDEO GAMES.

well for the time being, he lost the laptop....ah shucks, the fun of being a parent.

He likes to draw though.

One of the things the RAF looks for in potential pilots is being good at the complicated video games that are out now, it shows aptitude in being able to concentrate on and complete several complex tasks at a time, all things needed for pilots and fighter pilots in particular. Obviously it takes other stuff as well but I wouldn't fret too much about the video games stuff, they aren't quite as mind numbing as many think.

Do you have anything like the army, RAF or Navy cadets we have here? Boys in particular love being in them, they get to be in a big gang, play with weapons ( in the RAF cadets case they learn to fly) go out on exercises, go abroad, all sorts of things that are age appropriate. they don't have to join up either when they are adults.
http://armycadets.com/become-a-cadet/what-youll-do/
http://www.raf.mod.uk/aircadets/whatwedo/

 

[granfire]

Hey, i send him to you! ^_^

The stinker would probably stop playing video games if he was told they could be beneficial!

(We actually do have a few shoot'em up games, he does not play them very much though. more of a fantasy/puzzle type gamer)

Well, he played sick Monday, coach send him to the nurse in 1st period (I will have to rethink my strategy on that one) and he thinks he's in the clear, with the Thanksgiving holiday keeping him out of school for 3 days. (no, really, is that necessary?!)

So I am having an uphill battle - again...

I am tired of laughing and too much alcohol does not agree with me.

 

[Tez3]

Hey, i send him to you! ^_^

The stinker would probably stop playing video games if he was told they could be beneficial!

(We actually do have a few shoot'em up games, he does not play them very much though. more of a fantasy/puzzle type gamer)

Well, he played sick Monday, coach send him to the nurse in 1st period (I will have to rethink my strategy on that one) and he thinks he's in the clear, with the Thanksgiving holiday keeping him out of school for 3 days. (no, really, is that necessary?!)

So I am having an uphill battle - again...

I am tired of laughing and too much alcohol does not agree with me.

Hey I'd quite happily have him! Send him across in the summer holidays. I'll chuck him in with the 14-16 year olds in the club, he'll love cage fighting. Actually they love the training, they are in with the squaddies, get treated as adults and get to work off frustrations, they do go home calmer. After our fitness coach John (Scots Guards Sgt.Maj) has called him things he's never even imagined existed and beasted him he'll be pleased to be home with you! Travel does broaden the mind and does help mature youngsters, but bear in mind on the whole boys are two years behind girls in the maturity league. Thay also mess around at school to start with then knuckle down, girls are the other way around.

 

[granfire]

LOl, yep, sounds like a guy's holiday to me!

(I think he's need a dictionary though, for all the words that are not in it!)

Ah, yes, my niece is 3 years younger, does home work, keeps her room clean...her mom was a hellion...I can only imagine how that will turn out when the hormones kick in....