When you say Parents, I get a feeling you are talking....Genes.
While it's true that the gene-pool needs more chlorine and the long net run through it and it wouldn't hurt to have fewer family trees that resemble palm trees... no, I wasn't really talking about genetics. Stupidity may have a strong genetic link, but no...
I was talking about SCUM spawning kids and then forgetting that the event should change/augment your entire life and world view or at very least they should work to care for and protect that child. NOT have the child be at the mercy of their addictions/habits/lusts/selfishness ....etc etc.
I think 16 is a fair time to treat them as adults, some even earlier...
Why? For what offenses?? Not that I 100% disagree, but it needs to be based on the severity of the crime and the rate of recitivisim for that individual. It's got to be tailored to the individual, the situation and their history. Adjudicating youth with adult statutes is applicable, but it's not the panacea that some seem to think. It wouldn't go very far toward cutting down crime...but it'd keep a few habitual/unremorseful criminals off the street...and that...only for a time. It's not like the adult correctional side of things is run any better than the juvenile. Same stuff...different keys.
Some don't stand a chance at leading a normal upstanding small town life of, 'do unto others' etc....I think peer presure in todays youth is a terrible burden...Do unto others before, they do you... is more like it.
I'll never say that some don't stand a chance. The day I believe that anyone 'has no chance' is the day I quit this field. I MUST believe that there is a chance...however remote, and then I AIM that youth toward that small target. I WILL easily say though that there are many for whom the deck is severely stacked against them and the target is small small small. Like one of my favorite supervisors once said to me..."John, you can't save'm all. Some we can only hope that they grow up to be model inmates."
Sad thought.
I AM my brother's keeper.
Peer presure is a tremendously aweful thing for todays youth. It's increadible. BUT: by no means is it alone. Just like you can't only blame video games and mtv...but they do play a part; peer presure does take it's toll. But it's only one part of a very negative whole.
How about the statement, 'that it takes the whole neighborhood to raise a child'. I see that as good and bad in todays living standards
That quote stinks and came from the bowls of HELL!!!!
It's got a seed of truth, sure... the social environment is important. BUT it takes PARENTS to produce a child and Good parents to raise an adult. That quote is too often seen as an excuse for the results of bad parenting. DO you know when the "villiage" should step in and help raise a child??
When, and only when, the parents of that child are not able to!!!
PERIOD. Otherwise the villiage needs to mind their own curtain crawlers! Otherwise this quote is only applicable in a social-communist environment...and we've all seen the wonders that communism produces.
Don't you get tired of seeing/working with all the people who are now and had been nothing but a problem.
I don't work with problems. I don't even work with "bad kids". I work with Damaged Goods. These youth were let down in some very profound ways by their parents. 99% of the time the youth was neglected. There are two general kinds of neglect that you see:
#1:
malicious indiference: "Damn kid. Never do anything right. Don't talk to me now...the game is on." So the kid makes up his world view from nothing better than the most base urges of the ID. (see Freud)
#2:
Benevolent indiference: "Sure son, whatever you want."
This is the kid that was kept out of sight/out of mind by giving him whatever the hell he wanted and let him do whatever also.... for the parents later to find out (usually around 14yoa) that they've produced a selfish, self centered monster who believes that the world owes them everything. "How DARE that cop pick me up for shoplifting. How else am I gonna get my cigarettes"...says the 13 year old I saw last week.
These kids aren't THE problem, they are the fruits of it. The problem is parents that don't know how to parent and produce people who will grow up to pass on the legacy...and worsen it. Bad parenting is the only thing that doesn't have 'diminishing returns'...it gets bigger and bigger every generation.
DO NOT be your childs "Friend"!!! Be their parent. Be kind, but don't be a "Buddy". Let them grow up with the BLESSING of discipline...then be your friend once they have their own children and grow to appreciate exactly what it was you did for them!!! My parents did, and it's the best gift I've EVER been given next to the salvation through Jesus Christ!!!
No doubt about it.
I'm preaching again...
I think you get my point, so I'll step back from the podium and just let the music play.
Your Brother
John