RyuShiKan,
You know I took a bit of a chance posting that last one. I thought you just might call my bluff and actually answer, making me look like a boor and you as the poor victim. But deep down, I was pretty confident you would do no such thing.
How about a different tack. The night is young and we can still dance further.
So once more into the breach dear friend.
Your initial Ānon-answer postĀ to this thread indicated you would send a prospective student off to another dojo if they told you they were interested in studying karate for self defense only and not for moral or spiritual development. This despite the obvious possibility that this hypothetical student could be of exemplary moral character.
Now I really donĀt expect much in the way of follow up from you, but just in case I have completely misjudged you, I want to try this one last chance to prove I am wrong about you, that you really are a cooperative sharing person.
So I will try another hypothetical situation, one where you might not chose to send the guy packing, pretty much sight unseen.
You have a prospective student at your dojo.
Now letĀs say this student has told you he knows that the study of karate is good for moral and spiritual development and this is an important goal for his desire to train, almost as important as self defense. He has read your dojo kun and has told you that these principles are very important to him and he believes that training in your dojo will help him to achieve those goals. He tells you he really likes to work hard. Finally, your initial impression is that he seems to be of good character. He is mannerly, courteous and deferential, a gentleman in every way. There doesnĀt appear to be a hint of the notion that he is coming to you to learn how to hurt other people, and he does not appear to have an attitude that might result in increased risk to other students in your dojo. Just a potential model student.
But before signing up, he has only two things he wants to discuss with you. The first is your requirement of training commitment and the second is a simple question about one aspect of the art you teach.
He tells you his schedule only permits him to be in the dojo 6 hours each week. He works full time at a job that requires up to 50 hours per week, has a long commute to work and your dojo, and has a busy family life with children. And he also is a part time student working finishing up a college degree that has eluded him for all too long. Each week, he can make it to the dojo two or three times, but that is all. That might translate into 2 hours three times per week or some other combination. But he tells you he has great consistency in everything he does. He will absolutely be there every week, allowing a maximum 2 weeks per year for illness and personal emergencies. So he has a commitment of 6 hours, 50 weeks per year. He plans on training with you for at least four years.
The first thing he needs to know is if his commitment to 300 hours in the dojo per year meets your minimum requirement. If you tell him it doesnĀt then that is the end of it and he thanks you for your time and leaves.
However, if you agree that his 300 hours per year in the dojo would be sufficient, he has one question for you, but first needs to give you a little background.
He tells you that he has a solid background in the art having trained many years in several Okinawan systems and knows that kata is an important element of training. Since his primary goal is to learn self-defense, and not sport, he wants to continue to study Okinawan karate, rather than at the many Japanese karate alternatives in your area.
He believes there is great value in the practice of kata, especially from a moral and spiritual development perspective.
After having said all that, this prospective student asks you a simple question. In his 25 hours per month in the dojo, how many total repetitions of kata, on average, would be the norm that he would practice. He is about to commit to an investment of over 1000 hours of his life to hard work in your dojo, and wants to know if he by choosing your dojo, he will be headed in the right direction.
You have several choices.
Option 1 - You could tell him a lie or exaggeration deliberately inflating the number because you know that is what he wants to hear. But that would not be in character with your dojo kun, so letĀs make the assumption that is not an option.
Option 2 - You could give him an honest answer. Perhaps you may have never really considered the issue before, so you have to think a bit. After a minute or two you figure out an estimated range. (e.g. some months as few as xx and some months as many as yy.) and share it with him. This could include a qualification that there are many factors that effect the degree of variation from month-to-month such as which classes he attends, etc.
Or perhaps you might have a ready answer. Maybe you have grappled with the ever-present challenge of how to include enough regular kata practice when there is so much else to do in the way of drilling, application, conditioning, kumite, kobudo, and whatever else makes up your curriculum.
Option 3 - You can choose not to give him an answer. This can come in the form of a blanket refusal. Or it could take the form of a remarkable variety of non-answers which include
evasions, further questions, misrepresentations, accusations, obfuscations and personal attacks.
For instance, you could begin with the basic
evasion. Perhaps an attempt to convince him that this number is not meaningful is a good start. Try telling him that it is quality not quantity that is important. You could also tell him that it would be too hard a number to calculate, or varies so much from month to month that it would be a meaningless number.
Then there is the handy
"question answer". For example, you might reply ĀWhy do you want to know?Ā or ĀWhat is this morbid curiosity you have with this issue?Ā or perhaps the vague pass ĀIs this for some research you are doing?Ā
And there are plenty of variations to consider when using the
Āquestion answerĀ. You can demand that this person provide assorted information about himself such as who he trained with, how long it took him to get to Shodan, and the name of the person who promoted him to his current rank.
Moving up the ladder, the next trusty option is to
misrepresent what he has told you. This is easily done. Take something out of context, or insist he said something he hadnĀt. This strategy is rich with potential. Perhaps he mentioned the term Shuri-te in another context, opening the way for you to state he is claiming rank in it. Or perhaps he said "I am fortunate to have a small dojo... I am not a martial arts professional." That would give you the opportunity to respond "You say you are not a martial arts professional...So are we to conclude you donĀt have a dojo?"
Now just imagine that this person felt, for some completely unfounded reason that there just might be some value in anonymity. (Perhaps he had a totally bizarre hunch that you just might be a person who might take issue with anything he might say about himself. Who knows?) Then it might be a good opportunity to use the tried and true Āout-of-left-fieldĀ
accusation strategy to truly bewilder him.
HereĀs one way it can work. Just accuse him of being someone he isnĀt with a statement like. ĀSomething you just did reminds me of something somebody else once did, ergo, you must be him.Ā (This could be along the lines of say, a word count by someone falsely claiming rank in Uechi Ryu. Or better yet, you can make the connection that since you had recommended Bishop's standard text to this Uechi Ryu masquarader, and your prospective student quoted from that text, well then of course this would be conclusive proof they are one and the same) Once this accusation is launched they key thing is to nurture it. It is best to repeat it like a mantra. It is well know in psychology, that if you say something (or perhaps type it) over and over, you begin to believe it regardless of its merits.
If this guy is still resistant, it might be time to roll out possibly the most effective option:
obfuscation. Bear with me as I describe this convoluted, but ingenious approach. It starts as a follow-up to one of your earlier responses. (it must be a Ānon-answer questionĀ) Now it doesnĀt have to be the first non-answer question such as Āwhy do you careĀ. It could very well be a later question, or better yet, a barrage of questions really can get the job done. Here are a number of good candidates: "What is your style?" "Who awarded your rank?Ā "What kata do you practice?" "When did you earn your Shodan?" Now the lynchpin. To make this work you simply refuse to answer the personĀs initial question until your follow-up question is answered.
If he declines, and asks why you wonĀt answer his simple question regarding kata repetition, without him having to reveal his background, you now have an opening to get him totally bewildered. You of course know that although it was you who began the whole process of the Ānon-answer responseĀ, you can now act as if it were really you who asked the first question that went unanswered. Ergo, he, not you, is at fault for being so uncooperative. An important component of this approach is the repeated claim that you have answered his question, even though all of your ĀanswersĀ are just cleverly crafted non-answers. That ensures that you look like you are doing everything possible to answer his question while he refrains from not answering yours.
But it takes a careful effort to fully exploit the full obfuscation strategy. To take it to the final step, the best tactic is to blame this person for requiring you to answer a question when he has ĀavoidedĀ answering yours. And if you phrase it just right, you can sound like a poor victim of his determined pettiness and stubbornness. The brilliance of this approach is in its byzantine complexity. Who can ever really figure out who asked what first. Kind of like two kids each saying the other started it.
If all else fails, you just may have to resort to the
personal attack strategy. When you find that other methods arenĀt getting this guy to give in, a generous dose of derision can sometimes work wonders. You can ask him if he has the stones and integrity to back up something he said or claims, all the while you repeat your mantra that he is not really who he says he is, and wonĀt answer your questions about his personal training. Again, the key is to paint yourself as the victim of his deliberate unfairness. Anyone watching might wonder why this guy is being so darn mean to you.
Ah, the elegant majesty of the well-crafted twisting of anotherĀs words. The keyboard is certainly mightier than the katana.
Shall we choose option 2. Will you answer the question of the first post? What do you have to lose?
A number, a number, my background for a number.
Or shall we dance on? I got some great reggae going, a cold Guinness. The night is young, my shoulder resting, and my fingers nimble.
btw- I mostly practice kata from the families of Pinan, Bassai, Kusanku and Chinto, and teach a subset of those. But I have a passing familiarity with quite a few more.
How about that dojo schedule of yours? I am sure you could whip it off in just a few moments.