No offense Rich. I don't know you and this is not directed at you. But many people SAY that they will be the first to admit when they were at fault. I have yet to see very many people who actually do.
Thing is. From your vantage point YOU may think that being cuffed was unnecessary, but that doesn't necessiarly meant that it's so. The same applies to quite a few things that police do. There are times when its necessary to be in control of a situation and when someone isnt co-operating...TAKE control. People don't take kindly to it (as is to be expected) and to soothe their sense of righteousness will try to turn it around on the cop. I have had my own relatives gripe to me about how they were treated by an officer when my relative was entirely in the wrong and the cop did what he was supposed to.
Minimizing ones culpability is human nature. As is deflecting blame or re-remembering things to make one feel in control.
As to the "its nice to see a cop say that cops can be bad" thing...I see that all over the place. I think every LEO here has said so on occasion. However I see a bit of "assumption" that what a cop did was unjustified aroundabouts too.
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I have called 911 twice, and second time woman on the phone says she is going to send an officer tomorrow to charge me with making false claims on the phone, because any "MAN" would just take the boyfriend out. I then explain that he is there and that she is letting him into the house. I could not stop her from coming an going (yet). She then changed her tune to saying stop her. I asked how? I cannot touch her. I cannot stand in front of her preventing her from entering or leaving. She could press charges against me then. Hence why I called the police 5 minutes ago for assistancein dealing with a third party at my house at 11 PM on a Thursday night.
A single female officer shows up and I flag her down as she goes to drive by, as I have exited the house with a mobile phone (1998 - I did not have a cell yet) and was outside avoiding the two of them while they searched the house. I flagged the officer down and she pulled into the driveway. She got out and asked "Who are you?" - Me, "I called 911 for the police " She then said, Sit down. I sat down on the ground right where I was. She then pulled her gun and pointed it me and told me to stand. I did. The she told me to drop the phone. I did. She then told me to lift my jacket and turn around. I did. The ex and boyfriend stepped out of the house at this point. She saw them and smiled. Then she told me to sit. I did. Then she told me to stand. I did. Then she told me to come over to her and the police car. I did. All under gun point. She was nervous I could tell by the way her finger was on the trigger. I had been over 25 feet away when she was playing simon says with me. She then asked the ex who she was. The ex replied she was the my ex wife. The cop asked the ex if she ahd called the police. She said no. I said Ma'am I am the one that called.
At this point she got angry. She shoved the gun towards me and said up agains the car with your hands on the roof. I complied. She holstered the weapon, and then the palmed my wallet and found out I lived there. Then she checked me for weapons. I have been checked by bouncers and police before and after. She was the only who has ever done ridge hands to my testicles to check for a weapon. She then cuffed me and placed me into the back of the her car.
She goes and talks to my ex and her boyfriend. They say that he had just come over to help her fix her car.
The officer forgot to call in, and back up showed up. Three cars showed up one was a double so four more officers were there. As they were pulling in, she came back to her car, grabbed me by the hair and dragged me out, and took the cuffs off and then said get back into that vehicle.
If being in cuffs was wrong why did she have to remove them before the other officers say me in them?
If I was the bad guy why did she have to cover up that she had cuffed me?
I was not allowed to speak as they talked to the ex and the boyfriend. Then the sergeant asked me what was up. I explained and told him about it jsut as I did here.
She denied pulling her weapon or cuffing me.
If it was wrong why did she deny it?
The Sergeant then asked me to leave. I asked why, since I as the one who called and who lived there. He looked at me, and then ran my story through his mind again (* at least I assume so as he took a minute and was quiet, I assume he was thinking *). He then smiled and asked the ex, and she claimed to live there. I said the divorce had not preoceeded far enough to force separate addresses, but he ( the boyfriend does not tlive here, and if you want I can provide a copy on the ansering machine of him saying eh was coming over to kill me. ) did not belong here. The officer that is true.
I then asked for a police report. The responding officer said no.
I said I am offcially requesting. She said she was officially saying no.
I turned to the sergeant and said, I need your names for my lawyer as by law any domestic violence be it verbal or physical and the police are called a police report shall be issued upon request. (* This could be taken by some officers as being a problem person for quoting the law to them, I understand this. But I wanted my report so I coudl file for a PPO *). The Sergeant turned to the responding officer and said he (me) is correct, right him a report. She said ok, I will. They all left, including the ex.
The report was not finished in her next two shifts and then she had three days off and then she still did not complete it in three more shifts. I called my lawyer, and he he called the police department and aske if he needed to file a complaint against them and also request all the stats on how long it takes to get a report written.
I got the report in two days after that.
I went to file for my PPO.
I found out that I could not get a PPO as the ex file one against me. Which was even better as she had to list her address as somewhere else so now she coudl be there when I was not, but I was there I was in violation of the PPO, btu I could call the police and request them to come out and ask her to leave. You ask why would I know this. I had to do it enough times that a bunch of the officers signed a petition for the judge to allow me to have a PPO against her so they could arrest her. But that is not the point of this.
My point is that why did she the responding officer deny pulling her weapon and also cuffing me, when my lawyer who I am paying for me and other police officers told me that getting one person alone in a domestic is SOP and it was allowed. My whole point about this is that she is a bad cop. She was trying to cover things up versus just admit to them. She acted guilty which makes people think that she was guilty.
On a side note: Months later when by court order the ex was getting the rest of her stuff form the house on Super-Bowl Sunday, I had two friends there by court order to watch and document any damage she did. She was destroying things, so they called me. I called the police and went there. I staid off the property and met the police officer. I showed him my PPO against her (* she was still doding being served *) and hers against me. I explained the court order and provided a copy to the officer. He then when in and talked to my friends and her and her family. My friends came out. THe officer came out a few minutes later.
The officer explained to me that the court order was executionable by the court and the judge and the PPO was executed by the officer. I was in violation of the PPO by having my friends there as that is considered stalking by her. I told the officer I understood. I asked him if he could do me a favor. He looked at me and asked what? I said only arrest me as my friends did not have copies of the PPO nor the court order, and were there in good standing with me as a favor to me. The officer said, ok.
I thought he was a goodofficer. He was going to arrest me. I did not expect him to let me friends go, but I asked as the PPO was against me.
He then asked for my PPO against her. He then walked into the house. He served her. She started punching holes in the walls. He left. He told me there was nothing I could do to stop her from buring the house down, I had to get back into court first. I said thank you. I hadned my keys to my friends and walked over to his car and assumed the position. He asked me what I was doing? I said I assumed you need to check for weapons before you take me down to be processed. He smiled and said just leave and come back after she is suppsoed to be gone.
I did not expect to walk away from that. I was not mad at him for doing his job. I was not upset with him. I resigned to the process. I had done everything to avoid a situation to be put into jail for her and the divorce and I had made the mistake of thinking the court order was superior to the PPO. It is in court and as far as the judge is concerned but as far as the officer was concerned the PPO was the immediate order they could act upon.
The beating was younger and a much different story.