No doubt this happens, hopefully not too often, that an instructor doesn't do his best for a student for selfish reasons as you wrote.
But, as I'm apt to do, I'll take the opposite view to discuss, and put the "blame" on the student. Some students are more ambitious than others. I would say, in general, younger ones are more ambitious, excited and physically oriented than older folks. This is a natural attribute of youth. Though, of course there are reluctant, less interested kids who may be sent there for "day care."
Older beginners usually have different MA goals than younger ones. They are usually there for exercise, an interesting activity, and/or basic self-defense. They're not there to become the next Chuck Norris. Note that I put the word "blame" in quotes in the above paragraph. I did because it's not wrong to have different, less ambitious goals and have lower expectations for the art. They have their own unique personal needs and reasons. Again this is OK - their reasons for being there are just as valid as anyone else's.
A good instructor will teach to the needs of the student. I would certainly spend more time with a student eager to develop their MA skills to a high degree and make MA a lifestyle than for a guy just wanting to work off a few pounds and stay active. These types of students may not be the driven perfectionists and hungry for deeper knowledge of the art. In other words, they are satisfied with a less intensive teaching approach.
As long as the instructor makes his experience, knowledge and skills available, it's up to the student to drink from the cup. When their cup is full, the instructor can stop
I had a similar experience. I thought I mentioned it before when you all wete telling me thst was ONLY in my thirties. Now that look,, I guess I didn't. I went back to drumming after a long hiatus and had a teacher who really just didn't give a darnn. I wasn't playing in a band, so I guess I wasn't worthy. So, I took up bass guitar, which I never played before. I had a female teacher, who was really high and mighty because she went 5o Berklee. So, she wouldn't teach me what I wanted to learn because I wasn't going to be a music major. It is a fairly common issue. I guess that means I'll have to visit a lot of karate schools.i'm following 5his thread because I'm not exactly a kid and I'm not going to compete after blowing out a knee.
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