Yeah but how long have you been with KKW? How long have you been training TKD? did you ever practice old style taegueks?
I've always been part of a KKW school as well...
I have no idea what your school is like so I ask.
Your analogy works if we're only talking about sports.
It's like I walk into a MARTIAL ARTS school and say, "why are you only practicing sport rules? Are you training to compete?"
You're confining yourself to the ruleset.
The only ones I know who do that are only focused on competing.
You already know Taekwondo goes far beyond just the Olympic style sparring matches. There is also more to it than just the sport poomsae ruleset.
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I don't remember which graduate degree it was but I had to take a psychology class and read a Carl Rogers book, the one about the 3 core conditions if I recall correctly. I could not connect with much of it but I still remember where he talks about changing you own self to meet goals; I really aligned with that part. The other logic just rings very loudly of making compromise for lack of not being willing to put in the work.
"Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work." Thomas Edison
Some of personal growth is realizing that your expectations for yourself are too high, or that you're in denial of your capabilities.
There have been plenty of examples of this happening in my life. One is that I was burning myself out by being at the dojang too much. I had this perception of myself as someone who could handle the workload. And I was getting sick 6-8 times a year. I'm talking respiratory infections that would last 2-3 weeks. For 5 years, I spent at least 3-4 months of the year sick. I had no sick leave at work, I burned all of my annual leave on being sick, and there were a lot of times I was either working from home, or going to work sick, because I had no time left to spare.
Six months ago I had a talk with my Master, who had been saying for a long time that I should cut back my hours for my health. I always took it as an insult, that he didn't think I was strong enough or dedicated enough to teach as much as I was. Finally, I told him "you're right, I need to cut back." I kept trying to push myself to meet that goal of being the guy who teaches 20 hours a week, and it was killing me. I cut back to 5 hours a week. I'm sick right now, but it's the first time I've been sick in those 6 months. I'm a lot healthier and a lot stronger now.
I had to temper my expectations of myself and bring them more in line with what I am realistically capable of.
An example from fiction is from The Big Bang Theory, when Howard wanted to dump his exceptional girlfriend because he was holding out for Angelina Jolie or Katie Sackoff. It was a huge piece of character growth for him to realize that he needed to set more realistic goals in his love life. So he put aside his superficial desire for a superstar, and instead went with this girl he actually knew, who was smart and beautiful, and they had several seasons of a great relationship. It's fiction, but it happens in reality, too.
The last example I can think of (whether it's reality or fiction, you decide) is most of the problems on Kitchen Nightmares. People are in such delusion that their food is fine, their management style is fine, or their restaurant's lack of hygiene is fine, that they
cannot learn to change, because their hubris is holding them back. In this case, their perceived self was this virtuoso of cuisine, when in reality they were lazy hacks. Once they were broken of that hubris, they were able to actually learn how to function in the business.
Yes, sometimes you need to push yourself. But sometimes you need to evaluate yourself, and sometimes you need to evaluate your goals.