Insults

[ballen0351]

But until he saw the light you were the bad guy, no?

Correct. He was very mad at me and we were partners for 3 years prior. I honestly think he got so mad because he knew I was right.

 

[granfire]

Correct. He was very mad at me and we were partners for 3 years prior. I honestly think he got so mad because he knew I was right.

Still, you gained nothing from it, past being able to tell him over a year later 'I told you so'


however, i apologize, since 'the truth' sort of messes up the issue.
After all, my question is about insulting a person one does NOT know. Any truth in the accusation would be largely coincidental.

 

[MA-Caver]

she could spit and kill a chicken.

In that order?

I've had people insult me all my life... token whipping boy I guess... As far as my S/O, if someone insulted her... I dunno. It depends upon the insult. First off in my mind I'd be wondering what the hell is the reason why they would just haul off and say something insulting to begin with? Secondly, how bad is the insult. Thirdly it would depend upon her, if she's hurt by it and how badly. Fourth... what my mood is at the time. Catch me in a good mood then I'd blow the idiot off and walk away, catch me in a bad mood and said idiot will provide an apology--whether they wanted to or not.

I've been raised to be a gentleman best as I can be. While I won't do the "duel at dawn" to defend my S/O's honor,

"Stop! I beseech you sir, I'm sorry I called your wife a bloated warthog (giggles), and I bid you good-day" ~Connor McLeod from the film Highlander

I will weigh it and see what needs/could be done.
Honestly I can't think of any other reason than the idiot wanting to start a fight and thus, arbitrarily haul off and insult someone hoping that it would spark the response they're hoping to get. The concept, the very idea is extremely difficult for me to even begin wrapping my mind around it... also I wouldn't want to.

Now touch her and try to hurt her... oh, that's a whole different can of worms right there. Best clear their schedule because they're going to end up in the hospital.... nuff said.

 

[ballen0351]

No as a friend I refused to allow him to make a mistake without at least telling him. I would hope my frinds were good enough friends to tell me what I dont want to or can't hear when its the truth. Now if were talking about some dude just insulting my wife for no reason in my job that happens all the time my wife mom kids so it don't bother me. If a friend did it I would think he was joking and laugh it off but its never happened so I don't know what I would do.

Still, you gained nothing from it, past being able to tell him over a year later 'I told you so'


however, i apologize, since 'the truth' sort of messes up the issue.
After all, my question is about insulting a person one does NOT know. Any truth in the accusation would be largely coincidental.

 

[Carol]

Well, 'no matter how true'
You know those cases (ok, you have to know the person you insult to add truth to the insult) when the partner has a flaw.
Sorry still not more clear in my thoughts, started coffee late this morning...
It's said that love makes blind. So while it seems prudent to point out a flaw, it might just meet (or create) resistance.
In any case it is seldom productive (plus if the man is easily swayed by such comments, would a woman want him for a partner?)

I keep thinking about 'City Slickers' Daniel Stern's character being married to this mean woman, and still his friends do not state the obvious to him. Not that they needed to anyhow.

For a discussion like that to have any hope of having a positive impact, it needs to be focused on the situation, and not the person. I recently tried to have that discussion with a friend of mine who is planning to elope with a lady who is younger than his children. That does not mean she is flawed, but there were several of us who were concerned that he was thinking with the wrong head. In our case -- my friends and I all felt like we needed to say something. We didn't gang up on the guy or try to beat him down. But we all engaged him in conversation about the subject. Whether that will do any good, I don't know. For me it was very important to NOT insult my friend.

If the couple was already married....then they made the choice, they can find a way to make it work. Only time in memory I made an exception to that was when a friend of mine was trying to escape a physically abusive husband. I didn't have to do much convincing, but I did offer her a place to stay for a week until she could get situated in a new home with her grandmother.

 

[ballen0351]

I guess its hard to really comment on the topic since we dont know the insult. It depends on what was said. If guy said hey your wife as smelly feet no big deal. If he said hey your wife is a ^%&# Sucking &(&^(& bag well that changes the game.

 

[Tez3]

For a discussion like that to have any hope of having a positive impact, it needs to be focused on the situation, and not the person. I recently tried to have that discussion with a friend of mine who is planning to elope with a lady who is younger than his children. That does not mean she is flawed, but there were several of us who were concerned that he was thinking with the wrong head. In our case -- my friends and I all felt like we needed to say something. We didn't gang up on the guy or try to beat him down. But we all engaged him in conversation about the subject. Whether that will do any good, I don't know. For me it was very important to NOT insult my friend.

If the couple was already married....then they made the choice, they can find a way to make it work. Only time in memory I made an exception to that was when a friend of mine was trying to escape a physically abusive husband. I didn't have to do much convincing, but I did offer her a place to stay for a week until she could get situated in a new home with her grandmother.

That's delightfully put!

 

[granfire]

I guess its hard to really comment on the topic since we dont know the insult. It depends on what was said. If guy said hey your wife as smelly feet no big deal. If he said hey your wife is a ^%&# Sucking &(&^(& bag well that changes the game.

Yes, it is.
But I don't feel comfortable putting any more details out, you know, exposing the innocent, shocked and appalled... even the stupid.