Here's a question...how does one train, or teach, mindset and commitment?
I am not sure of the best way, but I can share how I have trained and how I try to teach my students. (as always I would love input on ways to do this better... many of you guys are much better at this than I am)
First thing is that I do not teach brand new students knife or gun disarms. I will only introduce weapon disarms once they can do all the empty hand versions of what we use, so we don't need to go over the techniques... we can focus on the mindset and commitment.
We don't train for competition in my school... or in most of our organization. We train for the sake of learning the art, and a bit of self defense. I let students know that from day one. From their first throws, I teach them not to help uke up, after you threw him. Uke needs to practice getting up, on balance and aware. Tori needs to practice maintaining a safe distance while uke gets up. If there is an opening I encourage them to reach out and grab the other one.
We finish our throws standing... when I catch students leaning over uke, I will walk up and slap their head. Then have them do the throw again, and finish standing... this way when I go to slap their head, the see it and react. Remember, that uke will also reach out and grab them, if there is an opening. The idea of all of this is that as Tori, you execute your technique, you control the situation, even escaping safely, while being aware of your surroundings.
As they get control, tapping out changes a little. Instead of immediately letting go, you immediately stop applying more, but keep what you have. Use your submission to control the other guy, as you escape. (obviously with chokes, you let it off, but you don't release the position... if he comes again, you choke him again)
Through this training, there are small things that go wrong, that the students have to adjust to. Usually on the escaping part, after the technique. (it occasionally turns into a bit of randori...) The idea is that they are practicing gaining control, through their technique, then maintaining the control and awareness until they decide the technique is over, when they are at a safe distance.
So now when you bring in weapon work, they have practiced the empty hand versions of not only the technique, but also for maintaining control. When you bring in the weapon work, it becomes a special thing for them. I use that time to impress on them the danger and reality of the weapon. Then we talk about the importance of mindset and commitment. With training weapons... when there is an opening, you cut/shoot the other guy. If he stops to reset, he get cut/shot until he does something. Then we talk about how and why he died, before he continues practice. Every once in a while, we will use live blades. We go slow, everything is predetermined... but it gets you to focus.
I hope that all makes sense. I think this commitment and mindset training are things you can introduce only with the weapon work. It needs to be done throughout all your training. The weapon work should add to it. How you set up the weapon training matters: are you going to play with rubber knives or are you going to train with knives? You need to always be practicing the control and how to adjust when something goes wrong.
Again, I would appreciate your guys input here.