MartialMasterTeddy
Yellow Belt
Aikido could be considered borderline (though I would personally include it), but Judo is definitely a grappling system.
What you are espousing is your personal viewpoint so definitely I can not agree with your parties views.
But Judo or Gentle Way can be done without grappling also although I do not disagree if someone categorizes it as a Grappling style. Same Aikido-- or Aikido++