trueaspirer
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Definately do all that has been listed above. If you don't you will be in trouble up to your eyebrows. Keep us posted...
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I agree. The sequence (lawyer to cops/cops to lawyer) isn't that important, unless your in immediate danger of injury. Then it's time for a cop, not a lawyer!As far as a cops point of view..Get a lawyer and THEN file a police report..If it's Friday and you can't see your attorney until Monday go to the station ASAP and advise them of the whole story..Been to my share of domestics and a lot of times the male was faultless..
1st. Document the abuse. Go the the police and file a report. These days a man is considered guilty until proven innocent when it comes to domestic violence.
2nd. Contact an attorney.
3rd. Now don't take this the wrong way. Contact you doctor to set up tests to check for STD's. You said she has a boyfriend and may be using drugs. If you have had recent sexual relations with her get yourself checked out to make sure your health isn't in danger.
4th Cancel any joint credit card accounts and transfer any monies to an account that she can't access. Why make it easy for her to put you in debt, or to blow your savings on her boyfriend or drugs.
5th Remove yourself from the situation.
It sucks but you need to protect yourself.
Get a lawyer and THEN file a police report..If it's Friday and you can't see your attorney until Monday go to the station ASAP and advise them of the whole story
Senjojutsu said:What isnt being said is you need to get a good lawyer, experienced in divorce
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What isnt being said is you need to get a good lawyer, experienced in divorce.
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I also hate to depress you, but understand the journey you are about to commence. There is no more sexist place in America than the justice handed out daily in state probate/family courts. You piss standing up - you are at a disadvantage.
Also remember divorce courts are all local politics. Your hot shot legal eagle Cousin Vinnie coming in from 500 miles away is not good option.
Excellent advice; anytime you need a lawyer, you need the BEST lawyer you can get -- not the cheapest! And they need to know the type of matter you've got, whether it's getting a divorce attorney (and not your Cousin Vinnie who does wills) for a divorce case, or a criminal attorney with extensive experience in domestic cases to help defend you in a domestic case (just to use examples from this thread).
And just about any family court that I've heard of in the US has a very, very strong bias towards the wife/mother. The judges will deny it...but the results speak for themselves. Or -- the women are getting all the good attorneys!