First of all, Tez and Michael, thanks for the kinds words, they do mean a lot to me. But the fact is, you both, and a number of other people who've posted on this thread, have made outstanding points that I hope xray takes seriously, as a way to understand just what his son's experience means (and doesn't mean). Kids always take contests seriously, and feel bad about losing, no matter what's involved; but a parent who can see through the contest aspect can explain to a disappointed child that in this case, his `loss' does not have the slightest implications for his MA activities, his progress, his skill, or his enjoyment in what he's doing.
If there's anyone who deserves credit for the kinds of things that I've posted about, it's the people I cite, who've done the necessary hard research and testing legwork, and the clear, hard thinking about the MAs, and have constructed a realistic perspective that can explain where we've come to, and why, and what we need to understand in order to recover the MAs from the entertainment hype that threatens to turn them all into martial spectacle along the lines that FC has written about previously in connection with the CMAs. These are people who take traditional martial practice as their touchstone, not because of any romantic mystification of the old masterseither their (often pretty raunchy) characters or their (considerble, but far from superhuman) martial powers. The conclusions of these outstanting practitioners/investigators should be very reassuring: yes, there is a considerable amount of real, practical knowledge built into MA forms; yes, you too can learn to extract that knowledge; and yes, you can derive its full benefits even if you've never won, or placed, or even participated in a forms competition. You just have to be willing to learn a bit about how to `read' kata, and you have to be willingthis is the difficult partto do hard training to ingrain in yourself the reactions that allow you to apply the kata-based SD methods instantly, without having to stop and think.
I hope that xray's son continues with his MA training, and that over time he finds himself thinking about forms in much the way that many of us on this thread clearly do. The most important thing I'd say to xray is that good instructors who can make clear the combat meaning of the TKD hyungs are worth their weight in gold; if his son's teachers are like that, don't give a second thought to anything else. And the next most important thing is to pursue a little bit of independent investigation on his own into the practical use of kata, so that he can help his son see things in a realistic perspective that's not warped by the very artificial priorities of tournament competition. Tournaments are like the movies: they are great fun, but they're not real life!
If there's anyone who deserves credit for the kinds of things that I've posted about, it's the people I cite, who've done the necessary hard research and testing legwork, and the clear, hard thinking about the MAs, and have constructed a realistic perspective that can explain where we've come to, and why, and what we need to understand in order to recover the MAs from the entertainment hype that threatens to turn them all into martial spectacle along the lines that FC has written about previously in connection with the CMAs. These are people who take traditional martial practice as their touchstone, not because of any romantic mystification of the old masterseither their (often pretty raunchy) characters or their (considerble, but far from superhuman) martial powers. The conclusions of these outstanting practitioners/investigators should be very reassuring: yes, there is a considerable amount of real, practical knowledge built into MA forms; yes, you too can learn to extract that knowledge; and yes, you can derive its full benefits even if you've never won, or placed, or even participated in a forms competition. You just have to be willing to learn a bit about how to `read' kata, and you have to be willingthis is the difficult partto do hard training to ingrain in yourself the reactions that allow you to apply the kata-based SD methods instantly, without having to stop and think.
I hope that xray's son continues with his MA training, and that over time he finds himself thinking about forms in much the way that many of us on this thread clearly do. The most important thing I'd say to xray is that good instructors who can make clear the combat meaning of the TKD hyungs are worth their weight in gold; if his son's teachers are like that, don't give a second thought to anything else. And the next most important thing is to pursue a little bit of independent investigation on his own into the practical use of kata, so that he can help his son see things in a realistic perspective that's not warped by the very artificial priorities of tournament competition. Tournaments are like the movies: they are great fun, but they're not real life!