lucky i wasnt taught with the bong sao to bong higher than my shoulder
Well to be precise, the elbow shouldn't be torqued up higher than the shoulder, ...but of course the bong sau itself, i.e. the arm, can be angled upward higher than the shoulder if necessary.
For example: Imagine somebody who's about 5'2" doing poon sau with someone over 6'2". Their arms will have to angle upward.