Hopefully something gets done, before something like this happens again. Charged as an adult, charged as a minor....either way, IMHO, this girl needs to be locked up somewhere. Regarding the help...well, I'm a firm believer that help is a 2-way street. If this girl doesnt want help, then trying to force it on her, will be pointless.[/quote]
Not nessesarily. That depends on how far those who are suppose to be helping this girl are willing to go and why they are helping. Sometimes the only thing that is left is confinement and forced help. If the reasons are for the child's own good and the family are willing to do What Ever is Nessessary Period. Full Stop. No backing down. Get Better or Die in there she will put in the effort. If the proffesionals she works with are Good, Committed and not just putting in time she will get the help she needs. So, it depends.
lori
When I worked for Corrections, I was amazed at the number of inmates that would leave the block to go to Bible study, AA, drug programs, etc. I often thought to myself, "I wonder how many are really seeking help, and how many are just using this as an excuse to get an hour or two of free time, so to speak. Did they really "find God" as they like to say? When they get out, are they really going to stay clean or are they going to go right back to using and/or selling drugs?
I remember talking to one young kid. I think he was in his early 20s. I was doing my cell checks and stopped to chat with him. He told me that he was getting out at the end of the week. He wasn't one who gave me any issues, so I wished him well and told him I hoped things worked out for him. Well, a few weeks later, who do I run into? Yup, the same kid. I asked him what happened and he said that he got mixed up with the wrong crowd again. A quarter of me actually felt bad for the kid, but the other 3/4 was thinking, "Why am I not surprised to see you here again!"
Much like a Martial Arts teacher, the pros who deal with these guys are not miracle workers. If I could've snapped my fingers and made my students know all of the material I was teaching, inside and out, I'd have the most successfull school in the world, but reality is, I'm not a miracle worker. I was asked all the time by parents, "Why isn't Johnny doing well? What can I do?" I'd tell them that I was doing my part, which was teaching. They (the parents and child or just the student if they were an adult) needed to do their part, which was train on their own. I can't help them, if they're not helping themselves.