Dennis
Thanks for the clarification and the PM
Thanks Mark,
The original thread "How easy is it to learn a second art" seems to follow from the premise of having a first art (though not necessarily mastery) and then adding additional arts in a somewhat planned fashion.. While my thread has commonalities, I'm more interested in the process of finding the art that suits you and the merits or problems with shopping around.
I think martial arts are so prevalent today that most everyone has some sort of an preconceived idea prior to ever stepping foot in the dojo. I honestly get a response that someone in a family has taken or been exposed to the martial arts in some fashion or another in about 80% of the people who come seeking instruction about my classes or like at a recent promotion event at a city festival with the general public who stopped by our booth.
Most often it is I took karate/TKD in my youth or the husband did etc. etc. But the reasons why a parent wants a kid to take it and the reason why a kid wants to take it are completely different. The parents might want the kid to learn discipline, self control, deal with bullying issues etc. etc. and the kid wants to have fun and kick things.
Fast forward a bunch of years and that kid is now a older teenager/young adult/college student/husband or a housewife/mother or father and they for whatever reason want to start martial arts but all they really remember is that they took it when they were young and they hit and kicked things or wrestled with people on the ground and whether or not that experience was good or bad (how they felt about it).
So as an instructor I talk with them and see what their interests are, what their goals are, and see if my program can help achieve them. I use the term my program because you could also insert any art there. However for the most part I think it is the school or program 1st and the martial art 2nd. Granted it can be the other way around as well but for general learning I believe it is the school 1st.
For instance Karate/TKD/Kung Fu can be taught from a very traditional mind set, it can be taught from a very eclectic mindset, a very competitive mindset, all teaching the same "martial art" that's why I said if "my program" can help them.
How much do you take on at once? How long to you attempt an art before you decide it doesn't fit?
As an instructor I believe you (or the student) should give it time, although you can sometimes start to see it in students about the time they have made into the early intermediate ranks whether or not the art fits. For instance I have some students that naturally kick high, are naturally flexible, they are aggressive when they spar and they thrive on it, they are a good fit for my TKD program. I have others that avoid contact, they have space issues or maybe confidence issues, they flow in their kata but they don't seem as good as the others that kick high and have excellent form. These students might be a better fit for my arnis program.
So I look for different qualities in the student along with their interests to guide them into each program.
As to how much do you take in at once, I believe that needs to be looked at on a case by case basis. For instance take my Modern Arnis or Presas arnis program; in the beginner level you learn double stick drills, single stick drills, and empty hand. These skill sets build upon one anther so the student isn't learning three separate arts such as Kobudo, TKD, and Modern Arnis (I teach all of these). Nor are they learning three arts like Muay Thai Boxing, Kajukempo, and Modern Arnis (such as the example given at the start of the thread) but then they aren't just learning a empty hand art like TKD or karate either. In fact many more traditional TMA instructors would frown on anyone learning weapons as beginner in the first place. Yet I have 10, 12, and 13 yr olds in class doing fine as beginners in Modern Arnis.
And, as with my friend, how do you seek guidance and counsel from superiors in this choice? What responsibilities do we as students owe to the art we select and the process of choosing? I've intentionally left it a bit open ended as I don't want to unnecessarily restrict the direction of the discussion. If it turns out that I am essentially reprising the first thread I will defer to the collective wisdom and we can either let this thread die or roll it into the first thread. I used counterpoint in a musical sense as opposed to intending a conflicting opinion. I view the discussion as a corollary issue about style selection and compatibility.
I was lucky in that when I first sought out guidance about checking out other arts my instructor gave his approval, I was an Orange belt and 19 at the time, and that was my first exposure to the FMAs. 32 years later still going strong in both arts (well in Modern Arnis instead of JKD Kali but still involved in the FMAs

). While I believe we as students bear the ultimate responsibility in choosing which art, I also believe we as instructors have a responsibility to guide our students if we think they might be better in a different program rather than just collecting a paycheck.
However what we owe to the art we choose is nothing really. We owe no allegiance, nothing makes us adhere to that art's principles from here on out, we don't bind ourselves to the art. We can choose to obey it's tenets, we can choose to obey it's rules etc. etc. but there is no secret police making sure we do. Unless we say we are teaching this art and then we need to teach that art, otherwise that would be false advertising. This said it is the school that you are bound to while training in the school, for instance I have a rule that if a student starts a fight in school and I find out then they aren't allowed to come back. If is is a defensive situation that's different but I don't want kids going out and trying out techniques on other kids to see if they work etc. etc. That is a school rule and I as the instructor will choose to enforce it like the student will choose or not to obey it.
However what the student needs to adhere to when training in the school is "When in Rome do what the Romans do" that is do what the instructor is teaching not what you want to do (unless you have the latitude to do it within the confines of what you are practicing) For instance like in TKD if we are doing freestyle one steps then the student has much more freedom to create his one step. However if I say show me one step #3 they better be showing me or working on one step #3 and not their own creation.