A fellow student emailed me recently to tell me he was quitting Modern Arnis. He is a pleasant individual, and like me, getting into the long tooth period of life. He also had a prior history in a martial art and had returned to training. Work constraints prevented him from training in Arnis more than once a week but he was a diligent student and attended the Sunday class consistently. He also took great joy in relating the Kajukempo and Muay Thai training that he participated in on Saturdays. He was unable to attend special seminars with the MA Grandmaster and expressed frustration that it had taken him so long to advance to completion of the first level. The school has been fortunate enough to have had a significant influx of new students and the Master instructor and those of us with a little experience have been rather diligently trying to give the newbies the attention they need in the basics. Fellow student finally decided to quit because; he had finally achieved the first level and now was being "held back" because he was helping with the newest students (and in my opinion improving his skills as he helped teach), still primarily practicing the first level when he wanted to move on to another module (specifically knife defense) and there had been no time for someone to teach him. There are any number of realistic reasons why short term needs have made it so, but he has had the opportunity to attend Saturday classes and declined as it interferes with his Kajukempo and Muay Thai. And while he was diligent in attending on a weekly basis, he was inclined to respond to correction with defenses such as "my Kajukempo training interferes with doing it that way". My intent is not to belittle this genuinely nice man, or any of the arts I've mentioned. I just think the entire scenario is illustrative of a situation where the student hasn't decided what art he is studying and lacks a certain understanding of some fundamental aspects of training in martial arts; like helping the junior students is beneficial to your own skills, and progress is a lifetime journey, not a sprint.
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