Some guidance for a beginner would be SUPER appreciated.

[JowGaWolf]

Or you can just not start fights.

lol.. well it's too late to learn the technique when the fight starts. So we learn it when we aren't fighting. Pretty neat yes? Learn how to cause horrible pain when we are at peace so that we can do it without thought we are at war, or in this case in a fight that may or may not come to reality.