I was on another site, and the subject of saying you are sorry after hurting someone came up. Do you or don't you look for the words, "I'm sorry" when you get tagged, or do you say it to others when you hit them? Why?
Sean
Sean
Saying you are Sorry
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CoryKS
Senior Master
I don't look for it, but I tend to say it if I've unintentionally hit harder than I expected or got clumsy at my partner's expense. One tends to hear it more during hands-on practice of techniques than in sparring.
Omar B
Senior Master
I never apologize, I'm sorry but that's something I just don't do.
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That is funny. I agree, though. If you say sorry in our classes, you will be sorry. LOL
Sean
I was always taught that saying sorry when you do something wrong is good manners, so if I hit someone inadvertently with a jo or a bokken, of course Im going to apoligise, to not say sorry would indicate I hurt them on purpose.
OP
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"Its a Hard Habbit to Breaaa - uh -haaeeaak."... That is the way we train as well.
Sean
rlobrecht
Brown Belt
Our sparring is controlled light contact, so if I hit someone harder than I meant to, I say sorry (or something resembling sorry around a mouthpiece.)
girlbug2
Master of Arts
In sparring, for shots that land exactly as intended (at low power level, so that they don't cause actual injury), it is not the custom at our dojo to apologize. After all, if you meant to take the shot, why should you be sorry that it went off exactly as planned?
OTOH slip ups in SD technique training are frequently apologized for.
OTOH slip ups in SD technique training are frequently apologized for.
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Then, by all means, say oops.
Sean
Sean
Most of the apologizing at our dojo is for brain farts or other blowing of the attack in SD techniques.
ap Oweyn
Brown Belt
Sure I will. As Ken Morgan said, accidentally hitting someone with a weapon (as in FMA) is decent reason to say "sorry." Generally, the other person understands that, in training a combat art, there's always a chance of getting cracked. In fact, I frequently say that it's not a training session until someone gets cracked on the fingers (to head off the inevitable and effusive apologies).
It happens. But there's no reason not to quickly acknowledge it. The one disclaimer I would add, though, is not to disrupt the rhythm and momentum of a sparring session to apologize. A quick touch of gloves, at most, does the trick amongst most people. A more thorough apology after the match, if you still feel it's necessary.
Stuart
It happens. But there's no reason not to quickly acknowledge it. The one disclaimer I would add, though, is not to disrupt the rhythm and momentum of a sparring session to apologize. A quick touch of gloves, at most, does the trick amongst most people. A more thorough apology after the match, if you still feel it's necessary.
Stuart
chrispillertkd
Senior Master
If I hit someone during sparring harder than I intended (with an excessive amount of force) I will apologize. After all, it's a case of me not being in control as much as I should be. It's just common courtesy to apologize under such circumstances, and courtesy is one of the Tenets of Taekwon-Do.
On the other hand, I do not expect to get an apology from someone if I get hit hard. I don't hold it against them, I just don't expect it. If all goes well they don't know if they tagged me hard anyway. I try to have a certain amount of reserve when training, even if hit. Sometimes it's harder to do that than other times
Pax,
Chris
On the other hand, I do not expect to get an apology from someone if I get hit hard. I don't hold it against them, I just don't expect it. If all goes well they don't know if they tagged me hard anyway. I try to have a certain amount of reserve when training, even if hit. Sometimes it's harder to do that than other times
Pax,
Chris
Miles
Senior Master
We are training for heavy contact, so it is expected that the shots are going to be hard. We don't expect to cause injury. For example this past Tuesday night one of the students was holding a shield and nearly broke her wrist due to the power of her partner's kicks. In other words, "Yes, I intended to hit you hard but I am sorry if you are not able to train".
Unintentional and out of place contact should be apologized for -- when the sequence is completed, not in the middle. But tagging someone hard in free sparring? Maybe after the fight...
I apoligized quite a bit while doing BJJ in the late 90's. It was very easy to go a little to far while on the mat. Some just aren't as strong as others and inturn won't perform as well. It is appropriate to acknowledge that you didn't mean tohurt them.
Interesting though most didn't do as I did. I would go as far to say that at times they would go out of their way to "better" someone from another style, especially someone with a lot of experience.
Interesting though most didn't do as I did. I would go as far to say that at times they would go out of their way to "better" someone from another style, especially someone with a lot of experience.
