Pornography 'Lessons'?

[pgsmith]

Well, if not in school, where else?

This is the responsibility of the parents, not the school.

I know that while I can talk with my kid about most things, the 'down under' territory makes him clamp up. The 'ask your daddy' only goes that far.....

I'm sorry to say it, but you don't have the proper relationship with your children that you should have. Parents have the largest influence by far on a child's life and outlook. If your children are too embarrassed about sex to the point that you can't discuss this important issue with them, then you should look at your own attitude and figure out how you managed to teach them that. Then you can do the tough job and attempt to unteach it.

On the other hand, a realistic view and light handed approach in the school could be eye opening for the kids.
Just a few weeks ago, the library lady explained to a couple of 15 year old gentlemen why that sex ed book was in the young adult /youth section of the library. She has people come in plenty of times who ask for "you got a book on 'youknowhat'?" to which she then has to guess as to what the what is.....I know here, down south, there are a lot of parents who do not believe in sex ed past just say no. And it is clearly not working!

This is why we need to spend a lot more time and effort attempting to educate parents about how to properly do their parenting jobs rather than trying to get the already overworked and underpaid teachers to do that job for them.

Sorry, but I did more than my share of educating parents and kids during my years as a Boy Scout leader, so this is a bit of a hot button topic for me.

Just my opinion on it, nothing personal intended.

 

[granfire]

This is the responsibility of the parents, not the school.


I'm sorry to say it, but you don't have the proper relationship with your children that you should have. Parents have the largest influence by far on a child's life and outlook. If your children are too embarrassed about sex to the point that you can't discuss this important issue with them, then you should look at your own attitude and figure out how you managed to teach them that. Then you can do the tough job and attempt to unteach it.


This is why we need to spend a lot more time and effort attempting to educate parents about how to properly do their parenting jobs rather than trying to get the already overworked and underpaid teachers to do that job for them.

Sorry, but I did more than my share of educating parents and kids during my years as a Boy Scout leader, so this is a bit of a hot button topic for me.

Just my opinion on it, nothing personal intended.

Well, good luck tilting windmills.

When the parents don't see each other naked, good luck having them educate their kids on having a healthy body image, etc....
When the popular sex ed is 'don't do it unless you are married' .....guess what!

And I really think you have the wrong impression of what kids want to talk about with their parents.

 

[Touch Of Death]

This is the responsibility of the parents, not the school.


I'm sorry to say it, but you don't have the proper relationship with your children that you should have. Parents have the largest influence by far on a child's life and outlook. If your children are too embarrassed about sex to the point that you can't discuss this important issue with them, then you should look at your own attitude and figure out how you managed to teach them that. Then you can do the tough job and attempt to unteach it.


This is why we need to spend a lot more time and effort attempting to educate parents about how to properly do their parenting jobs rather than trying to get the already overworked and underpaid teachers to do that job for them.

Sorry, but I did more than my share of educating parents and kids during my years as a Boy Scout leader, so this is a bit of a hot button topic for me.

Just my opinion on it, nothing personal intended.

Dude, the parents are watching porn! Freedom means the freedom to do nothing, in a lot of cases. I think the issue is important enough to at least be one of the messages that every child receives.
Sean

 

[pgsmith]

And I really think you have the wrong impression of what kids want to talk about with their parents.

Not at all. I think that parents today are more interested in trying to be their children's buddy rather than teaching them the lessons they need in life. My kids didn't want to talk to me about it, and I didn't want to talk to my Mom about it when I was going through puberty. However, Mom sat me down and explained a bunch of things to me that have served me well in life. I sat my kids down at various times and discussed a lot of uncomfortable subjects with them like sex, drugs, porn, the sex industry, STDs, drug addiction, sexual abuse, bullying, popularity or lack thereof, conformity, and making their own decisions. These things are not comfortable for either the parent or the child, and it's not something that any kid 'wants' to talk about with their parent. However, it is something that is necessary and will serve your children well throughout their lives.

Our job as parents is to help our children learn everything they need to know to be healthy and happy adults. Whether they 'want' the learning is irrelevant. This is something that just isn't stressed enough in today's society in my opinion.