Well, for what it's worth, it seems to me that you have a vested interest in validating your non-fighting training model, and so you are either unwilling or unable to consider that what you're doing might be great training, but that you can't be an expert in something you are inexperienced at doing. I've explained this concept to you in at least a dozen different ways with different examples, patiently (I believe) answering all of your questions, and adapting the vocabulary from thread to thread in an effort to use the words in the same way you do. So, when you say that it's emotional, I want to assure you that the emotion is occasional frustration. When you ask the same questions over and over, and don't understand the answer, over multiple threads over the course of literally years, I honestly think it's absurd for you to say that this is about me ignoring anything.
But saying I have an emotional attachment to this point is like saying I'm emotionally attached to the rules of math. If a person who doesn't speak English decides he's going to teach English to other people, I think we'd all recognize that he's not qualified. If he insists that he IS qualified because he can recite phonetically every Tony Award winning Broadway musical for the past 50 years, plus the collected speeches of the last 6 presidents, I think we would still say that he's not qualified. Even if he insists that he's saying the words, he's not speaking the language. I wouldn't say in that case (as in this case) that we have an emotional attachment to the point, whether that guy ever admits his lack of expertise or not.
Here's an abbreviated summary of this discussion over the years. Disclaimer, this presents as a linear progression, but this has actually been a looping, overlapping discussion that we've had in different ways in multiple threads, so most of the points are presented once, but actually were discussed many, many.... many........ many times, in different ways.
Me: I don't think folks who are inexperienced with self defense should be teaching self defense to others.
You (and others): Wait... I teach self defense! How dare you?
Me: Do you have any experience? I mean, it's a basic thing... people shouldn't teach things without some expertise.
You (and others): But I have trained for X number of years in this system that is badass and tailored for self defense. We don't do that namby pamby sport stuff. This is the real deal, when your life is on the line.
Me: Has your life ever been on the line? Nevermind. It's simple. You have to actually do the thing you're learning in context in order to become an expert in it.
You (and others): {Scoff!} What about CPR?
Me: Okay. Let's look at CPR success rates overall and by people who are not in the medical field (actually shares statistics). But more to the point, would you want someone without any medical experience teaching even a simple procedure (not a skill) like CPR? It's like flying a plane. Who would you want teaching you to fly a plane, someone with only simulator experience or someone with hours actually flying planes?
You and others: But what about a plane crash? How do they learn that? What about Sully?
Me: Okay, what about him? He was able to land the plane in the Hudson because he had accumulated a lifetime of experience flying planes AND he was very well trained. If you're going to learn to pilot, he would be an expert among experts... AND if you're going to learn what to do in an emergency, his experience would be invaluable as an instructor. Like Sully, if self defense is about fighting, and neither you nor your students are doing any fighting, how can you expect to apply those skills under pressure in a different context?
You: Well... I still don't like how you use the term "application" and if you're saying I can't use my skills in self defense, I disagree.
Me: How many times have you self defensed?
You: I'm going to ignore that question. You're making this personal.
Me: Okay.
You: You're ignoring my questions.
Me: Fine. Here are more examples and yet another explanation of the same thing.
@dvcochran: Everything you say is so obvious, and you say the same thing over and over in different ways.
Me: I know you mean that as an insult, but I completely agree.
You: You're ignoring my question.
Me: You have to fight to learn how to fight. The more you fight, the better at it you'll get (especially if you have a good coach).
You: But what about sparring?
Me: Sparring isn't a fight, but it might be really good for training.
You: But what if I'm really mean when I spar?
Me: That's fine... might be better training. [insert explanation with examples ranging from cooking to driving a bus to piloting an aircraft, and an invitation to provide an example of any activity or skill outside of "self defense" where people can accumulate expertise without doing something]
You: I've sparred with people who don't even do Aikido.
Me: I mean, did you? (and if you recall, we had a long discussion about sparring at that time, where we talked about things like how someone isn't likely to shame you or make you look bad when you meet up for friendly training. It's collegial, friendly, and positive... in most ways the opposite of a fight. If I seem reluctant to rehash that, it's because I AM reluctant to do that again, but I encourage you to go reread it).
You: But, I mean... you're using the term "application." Isn't sparring an application?
Me: Okay, fine... I'll start using your definition of application.
You: Yay... so, I'm right!.
Me: No, there's actually a ton of information available about how to design training, and how experience and application fit. [Shares a lot of basic information and explanations, with sources, of instructional design theory, various training models, and where really great training can help people. Also explains a very simple, but often misunderstood concept of transfer of learning... along with more examples.]
You: You're ignoring me. it's really good sparring. Surely that counts, right?
Me: I'm frustrated.
You: Why won't you answer my questions?
Me: Let's try something new. Obviously examples, analogies, explanation of learning theory and instructional design principles, and a lot of creative writing aren't resonating. I'll share my hypothesis. I'll try to encapsulate everything we've discussed and distill it into three sample groups (plus a control group), eliminating as many variables as possible, to focus not on style but on the training model.
You: I think someone who trains in a TMA can be super ripped... as much as a guy in CrossFit.
Me: Well, theoretically... but if you walk into a school that doesn't apply the skills in context, outside of the insular group... such as a typical TMA, and compare the 1 yr, 3 yr, and 5 yr students vs people who have been doing CrossFit for the same length of time, the fitness levels will not be comparable.
You: You never answered my question about sparring.
Me: Yes I did. What about those groups? The proof is in the pudding. Lots of styles spar. Here's an example of what a high level WC person looks like sparring and here's what he looks like fighting.
You: But can you provide examples? If not, I think you're just being emotional.
Tony: Yeah, how about examples?
In a nutshell, this is how I've seen this conversation progress. It doesn't help that every thread seems to start from scratch, and in this case, a thread where this discussion is entirely on-topic was abandoned and this poor thread was hijacked.