Your assuming a 10 yr old has the cognitive development of an adult. Here, this link will get you started if your interested in reading some of the pioneers of childhood developmental stages (Erikson, Piaget, etc.):
http://chiron.valdosta.edu/whuitt/col/cogsys/piaget.html
Point is, a child of 10 thinks differently and has a vastly different understanding of consequence then a 16 year old. A child of 10 doesn't have the same "common sense" as an adult.
Again, the child could have been told. But, kids do stupid ****, by adult standards. This isn't always anyone's fault (parents, schools, society, etc.); it goes back to developmental stages and understanding consequence as I previously mentioned. That doesn't mean that the kid should have his life ruined for a childhood mistake, or that the parents should receive the same punishment. None of that would bring the burnt homes back anyway.
There are a lot of good kids out there who have ****ed around with matches before, and without horrible results. Unfortunatily for this kid, his incident resulted in a tragedy.
O.K.; now here is where conversations usually go south. Right here, your attacking the integrity of my argument by implying that I am being insensitive to those who lost there homes, and that if it was my home that I would want to go after the kid.
Nothing could be further from the truth. Material possessions are not so important to me that I would go after a 10 year old.
Anyway, do some searches and read up on childhood developmental stages and see if that changes your mind. Otherwise, like I said, I am afraid we'll simply have to disagree...
You're right, we're going to agee to disagree. I'm sorry Paul, but IMO, my point is being overlooked. I'm not saying the kid should be thinking for himself at that age, what I'm saying is that the parents, from day 1, need to teach right from wrong. How else does a kid learn if the parents are not telling them, "No Johnny, don't touch that hot pan. You'll burn yourself!" Should they let him touch it? If you saw your kid playing with matches, what would you do? Let him keep playing with them, or take them away from him?
O.K.; now here is where conversations usually go south. Right here, your attacking the integrity of my argument by implying that I am being insensitive to those who lost there homes, and that if it was my home that I would want to go after the kid.
Nothing could be further from the truth. Material possessions are not so important to me that I would go after a 10 year old.
Well, what would you do? You never answered. Would you chalk it up to a stupid childhood mistake? Would you be upset with the parents? Would you go after the parents for the loss of your house?
Let me ask you this. That dummy that put a hot cup of coffee between her legs and burned herself sued for millions. Clearly her fault, but clearly she didn't want to live up to her mistake, so she sued Mcdonalds for coffee that was too hot. Common sense should tell her that a styrofoam (sp) cup isn't the same as a regular coffee mug.