I understand what you're saying. I guess as a novice it didn't work well for me. In Tang Soo Do, we could keep talking while sparring even if sparring hard. You can congratulate the other guy on a good hit. If you keep getting him with a back fist, you can mention his hands are low. Often there'd be a disparity between opponents so you weren't going as hard as you can. Adult vs teenager. Black belt vs green belt. It was friendly and no ego involved.
This one guy I knew had this great attack he'd use, leaping in with a back-fist after raising his leg to fake the kick. Guys wouldn't know what to defend as he collided with you and invariably he'd get a shot in. A bit of a cheap-shot if you ask me but it worked so I can't knock it. Anyway it became the joke when you used it, like "he got me with the Bob Special".
When I tried BJJ, I didn't know anything. So if some guy gets me with an armbar, I'm interested to talk about it. What did I do wrong? Is there a counter I could have tried? Or this guy is trying to get a rear naked choke on me but I'm trying this defense I read about in "Jiu-jitsu University" and he can't seem to lock it in. I want to talk about that afterwards. Did it work? Could I have done something better? Isn't that how you get better at this stuff?
Instead they took a sink-or-swim approach. Pretty much any counter I came up with, I got from YouTube because I wasn't getting anything from the classes. They'd get me with a submission and that night I'd be looking it up on YouTube to see what I can do about it. If I knew what I was doing, like the basics, then sure you can just play it out as intense as you like. But as a beginner, it didn't work for me.
Probably it was just a different teaching style that clashed with what I was used to.