Without the "sport" and "competition" environment, how can you "test" your self-defense skill?
How is competition or sport testing "self defence"?
I've done Wing Chun/ TKD/ JKD/ Muay Thai/ BJJ/ Karate.
I also tried Zentai Martial arts for a week, its basically ninjutsu... loved it.
Well, it's Bujinkan, so.... yeah.
I was looking for something like Tangsoodo or Enshin Karate maybe Kyoukushin or Ninjutsu, but I am now moving to the Indianapolis area.
So... karate, karate, karate or ninjutsu? Hmm.
You make a good point about testing my skills, but I believe intense saprring against instructors would be sufficient.
Sufficient for what?
I hate to be the one to say it, but, to be 100% honest, the most effective "Self Defense" against "impossible odds" equals weapons. Weapons are sometimes known as "force multipliers" and they "even up" against what's known as "disparity of force." Disparity of force is when you're outnumbered, the other side is much bigger and stronger (and maybe better trained), or when the other side has weapons and you don't.
The most effective personal defense weapon yet invented by man is the firearm. This is followed, in no particular order, by other weapons such as knives, clubs, swords, spears, etc.
If your "ultimate goal" is "survival" against "impossible odds" then you need weapons. I'd suggest something like one of the many Filipino martial arts, Silat, or maybe a CQC that focuses heavily on baton and knife (though they tend to be somewhat "shallow" as far as lifetime martial arts training goes, imo). Follow that up, or better yet, precede it, with a healthy dose of handgun self defense courses (available from the NRA and other sources) and a Concealed Carry License in your State. "God created man, Sam Colt made them equal."
Unfortunately, this recipe doesn't mate well with some of the other stuff you've suggested that you want. You might have to decide where your priorities lie as far as your long term goals go.
I should also point out that there are other martial systems which teach weapons that may (or may not) be directly applicable to modern self defense. There are several in the Western tradition even. However, I suggested, as "go to" arts, the three which I find to be most common and available.
Good luck.
Peace favor your sword,
Kirk
I'm really not a fan of guns at all, but then again, I live in a very different culture when it comes to violence and firearms... and, that aside, I have to agree completely with Kirk here. The bolded line is the most important... and I'll come back to that.
It certainly sounds like you're very passionate about the arts and training. This is a good thing!

I was training long before I met my wife, and fortunately, she was understanding and accepting of my training. Of course, I do my best to have the equal balance, so as to keep the peace! LOL! Not that she complains when I train, but if I was there more than I'm home, well.... LOL!
One thing though...take your time. There are a ton of things out there, but there's only so much time in the day. I'm all for cross training, but I personally limit it to no more than 2 arts. IMO, anyone claiming to train in 5, 6, 7 different things, in addition to having high ranking BB's in all those arts....well, it turns into more of a jack of all trades, master of none, in addition to being a bit suspect.
Er.... "anyone", mate? I mean, my main group covers over half a dozen separate and distinct systems, plus the modern approach (which actually brings the total list up to about 10), then I train in another 4 arts outside of that... with reasonable experience in another 6 or so systems... of course, I don't have high rank in any of those... in fact, I don't have any official rank in anything other than the main one....
Fair enough. Personally, I'd say to start the other direction, with weapons (not necessarily with guns, but sticks and knives can be really handy), but you gotta do it how you think best.
Completely agreed. Over here, I'd recommend improvised weapons (EDO's - Every Day Objects, such as water bottles, magazines etc), stick weapons (short staff, hand-stick), and knife (primarily to help inform knife defence skills). If taught as a congruent whole with the rest of the system, then integrating weaponry early is fine... many traditional arts teach weaponry well and truly before unarmed methods....
Most of the weapons taught in the majority of the Ninjitsu I've seen are more historic artifacts than modern self defense tools. That said, there are some that are applicable, if the instructor will teach them. Fist sticks (yawara), short sticks, sometimes knives (depends on the curriculum).
To a great degree, yep, the Ninjutsu weaponry syllabus' are about historical weaponry... but, depending on the instructor, there might be a fair bit of less historically accurate (or simply modern usages) methods being seen. Most typically, hanbo (half staff) is a common candidate for modern self defence methods, sometimes a walking stick-style cane can be substituted instead. There can be a tendency to use historical weapons in ways that kinda contravene the usage and context of such weapons as well, though... I leave it to others to see what they think of that... I certainly have my opinion...
Start slow with reasonable expectations. Here's my advice on firearms, particularly for someone with children and a wife that has reservations about it. Take the NRA Home Firearm Safety Course first and insist that your wife take it with you. The NRA, particularly in this course, is
ALL ABOUT safety. Heck, it's policy for NRA Certified individuals to specifically
NOT refer to it as a "weapon." Instead, it is a "firearm," (a "handgun," "rifle," "muzzle loader,") or just a "gun." But never a "weapon."
Here's sort of the order that I would recommend:
- NRA Home Firearm Safety Course
- NRA FIRST Steps Pistol Orientation
- NRA Basic Pistol Shooting Course
- NRA Refuse To Be A Victim® Seminars
- NRA Basics of Personal Protection Outside The Home Course
But take the NRA Home Firearm Safety Course first, above all, and do whatever it takes to have her take it with you. If your children are 10 or 12 you might consider having them take the same safety course with you and your wife. If they're younger, consider the Eddie Eagle safety material for children which teaches to "Stop," "Don't Touch," "Leave the Area," and "Tell an Adult."
Completely seconded! I wouldn't even think about considering firearms for defensive means without this type of training first and foremost.
Full disclosure: I am an NRA member and an NRA Certified Range Safety Officer.
Ha, well, I won't hold that against you...
To the original post:
Honestly, I'm going to advise you to forget all your criteria. Frankly, they're just going to get in the way, or they are fairly irrelevant. I'll go through it to see if I can clarify what I mean.
Hey all, I'm on a new quest I'm looking for a Martial Arts Home. I went through plenty styles, and love them all, now I just want to settle on one and grow within that organization.
Okay. The first (and most important) qualifying question when looking at something new is to look at previous experiences and see what you thought of them... so what have you done (you've already listed a few... anything else?), and what did you like or not like about them?
I'm not looking into sports or competition, but purely self-defense as a whole.
Okay, what do you understand of self defence and it's requirements or reality? I've noticed that many, if not most martial art schools that talk about being for "self defence" aren't really... what they are are teaching fighting methods, which might or might not be related to the context of modern self defence... but more commonly not.
I'm now 27, My ultimate Goal at this point is survival, I want to focus heavily on self-defense against impossible odds.
Er... right. No. There's a reason they're called "impossible" odds....
I want to learn weaponry and being 5'9 and 205lbs, my greatest assets right now are my speed and strength.
What makes you think those are your assets...?
What I mean by that is that many arts work to defeat strength and speed... so, if that's what you're coming in with, you'll most likely try to use what you consider your "assets", which would leave you missing the way the art you're learning works...
I like to fight on the outside, in and out very fast dealing 100% damage with each strike.
So you want to train in a system of "survival... self defence against impossible odds", but you're going to dictate the way you want it to handle such things due to your own preferences, separate and unrelated to the actual system itself? Additionally, moving "in and out very fast, dealing 100% damage with each strike", uh... nope. The moving in and out fast that you're mentioning here is more a sporting/sparring methodology, and "dealing 100% damage with each strike" is simply not the best approach in all situations. To be frank, combining this with the previous comments, it sounds like you're falling into a common trap... fantasising about the way some imagined "fight" would go... the sense of power you think you'd have... and it's just not realistic.
I'm not a fan of grappling, but I need that in my arsenal should I ever get put on the ground.
Small note, ground fighting is on the ground, grappling is just anything involving holding the opponent... which can be on the ground, but is certainly not relegated to only ground work. Most traditional systems have almost all their grappling standing.... but really, all you need are a few solid escapes, and an understanding of positioning.
I prefer to kick with speed to close the distance.
Again, I'd advise against anything that has you dictating how you want whichever art you end up in to do things. Nothing will be what you're after if you do that.
I Keep in shape and am looking for something that will push me to the limits of my physical abilities.
Crossfit. Or a decathlon.
That said, BJJ gave me one of the hardest, most intense workouts I've had... those guys are fit!
I dont mind learning culture and history, that actually interests me a lot.
Cool. Books.
Well, I hope you all could lead me to some great things to consider.
Thank you all and happy new year!
Forget what you want the system to be. Forget what you think your assets or preferences are. Visit as many schools around you as you can. The instructor and the training group are far more important than what is being taught. Judo under a good instructor is better than Bujinkan under a terrible one... and vice versa.